Two monks were standing by a river, ready to cross. A Princess came along and demanded that one of the monks carry her across the river. The older monk then did carry her across the river. The younger monk crossed the river and later down the road, asked the older monk why he complied with the rude, entitled Princess’s request. The older monk replied, “I quit carrying the Princess an hour ago, why are you still carrying her?”
Someday I will quit carrying my SAH. I know I will and can do that. I will keep this allegory in mind until that day…and beyond.
But for now I am carrying his lies, betrayal, and disgusting secret perverted sexual life foremost in my mind. For now it is giving me the strength to survive, to do what I have to do to get through negotiations and a divorce.
Some of us sisters are carrying our SAH’s and some of the sisters no longer carry their SAH’s. My wish is for all of us to come to the land of “meh” and stop carrying our SA/SAH’s.
We will build new lives, richer, fuller lives and authentic lives. We live in a world where we do not have to carry our SA/SAH’s.