Why do I care about his feelings? Parenting conflicts/shared counselor

I’ve hardly been home for the past 2 weeks. I’ll spend 2-3 days home to go to work then I leave with my kids and spend 4-5 days with my family back where I grew up. I have felt much happier then I have felt in a long time.

What is bothering me is how miserable and depressed my soon to be ex husband is and how it’s affecting his ability to care for himself and our kids when I need him to. I can’t pull him out of this funk that he created himself. I tried to talk to him about going to the doctors and getting on an antidepressant and his response was that he is depressed because he’s alone all the time while I’m out enjoying life with our kids and he’s never included. I can write out my expectations related to our kids but how can I enforce them? I still find myself making choices based on trying to make him happy vs doing what makes me happy because I don’t want to deal with it. He packed a lot of his stuff but he told me he can’t find a suitable place to live. Can I make him leave our home ? He had a counselor for about 2 years that seemed to be helping until our son was born and he decided he wanted to go back to his old ways and seek out prostitutes for oral sex. Then he just stopped seeing her until 2 weeks ago. I would like to make an appointment with this counselor to talk about my issues related to him and this separation. I have a feeling he is not being very honest with her as he still seems in denial that we are separating. Every time I try to talk about life post divorce he just wants to talk about how he’s going to fix everything. Im looking to hear about others experiences with these issues. Did your husband/partner leave willingly ?

How did you handle parenting conflicts ?

Did you wait until you were living separately to start talking to other people again ? I feel like it’s really not appropriate to go on a date while I’m still married and living with my husband even though I would very much like to go out and enjoy myself or at least have a time frame on when that could happen.

Thanks ladies !