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January 11, 2012 at 4:28 am #4234annabeginsParticipant
Today we received some very unexpected and bad news…my husband lost his job. We knew his co was going to be laying off employees but as one of their top performers, we didn’t think he would be one. (and no, unrelated to his sa)
please keep us in your thoughts and prayers. We depend on his income quite a bit and have high fixed expenses right now. He’s already got two potential job prospects which helped soften the blow after the initial call. It’s interesting how all of this is handled in corporate America, they stayed on an h r script the entire time. This is a rif and has nothing to do with your job performance…..
Anyway I digress
For the hope for those staying with their sah…I’ve been in a fog since he called me at work with the news. I handle the finances so knew how difficult this is going to be financially
I was in such a fog that his sa an acting out did not occur to me like it Should hve given the stess of the news and all the free time he will have on his hand beginning tomorrow…. My sah said he had been thinking about his plan on preventing any slips. Said he’s Seen too many sa’s who have lost their jobs begin drinking too much and slide right back into their addiction. He said he did not want to make that choice, that it would be the dumbest and most costly decision of his life
he told me how he planned to make more meetings and mass, that he would schedule his week, send me his calendar and to let him know what I needed to feel secure he was where he said he was going to be
he’s not used our home computer since October, has a plan for use, hours, public area for computer, teaming
software so not tempted.
All unsolicited. I hadn’t even gotten past how we were going to pay ou bills once severence runs out.
Who is this man? He’s not someone I recognize, but he is someone I am beginning to feel more connected with
I hope for him, he continues on this path. And hope regardless of whether we end up together I begin to trust again, especially my instincts, my gut
thanks for listening and thank you for your support, positive energy, thoughts or prayersJanuary 11, 2012 at 4:55 am #26485ksondyParticipantYou’ll both be in my prayers. I hope he finds something quickly. The economy is so awful.
And it’s more than hopeful to hear that he recognizes his risk, and not just financially. Stay strong for oone another.
January 11, 2012 at 5:00 am #26486napParticipantHi Annabegins,
I’m sorry to hear of your h unexpected job loss. It’s a real shock and your h sounds like he is already making connections for another job.I think it is wonderful how proactive he is on his recovery and plans. You both sound very sincere and supportive of one another during this difficult time.
I hope your h will find a job soon Anna. I will be thinking positive thoughts for you both. You’re very sweet and kind Anna and I wish you Peace at this difficult time.
Love, Nap
January 11, 2012 at 5:29 am #26487dianeParticipantDeep breath, Annabegins,
it sounds like he’s working on a plan to support his recovery doing this period added stress. I’m really sorry, though, that you’ve had this setback. But life is full of setbacks, isn’t it, and you both need to know you can get through this. Try and encourage each other as much as possible and keep to the plan. I’m praying for you right now and hope there will be a good outcome with the two job possibilities and the SA stuff.
big big hug,
Diane.January 11, 2012 at 8:02 am #26488kmfMemberI will say a prayer for you and your family, Anna. I think Mass is a really good plan. Karen xx
January 11, 2012 at 5:34 pm #26489anniemMemberI’m so sorry about the job loss, Anna, but so inspired by the real work your husband is doing with recovery. Keeping you both in my prayers.
Love, Annie xoxoJanuary 11, 2012 at 9:31 pm #26490lynngParticipantPrayers for peace and strength and a new job! It sounds so encouraging, that he has seen that this may add stress and time and so planned for this in his recovery, and that he brought those thoughts to you to share.
January 11, 2012 at 10:05 pm #26491ms-lindyParticipantDear Annabegins,
I’m sorry you got such rotten news. But I was pleased that your H actually is being proactive, thats wonderful. It sounds like he is very committed to doing the tough work on himself. That in and of itself is a great gift from him to you.I will keep you and your husband in my prayers also.
Luv, LindyJanuary 12, 2012 at 5:21 am #26492laurenbutterflyParticipantDear Anna,
So sorry you are going through this extra stress – very difficult. But the good news is the way your husband is planning to handle this stress. Send you my love and will keep you and your husband in my prayers.January 14, 2012 at 4:12 pm #26493lilaParticipantI am very sorry…prayers for you and your family.
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