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As most you know I’ve been recently divorved as of Valentines Day. I have no interest right now in a relationship because I want to enjoy singlehood for at least 2 yrs and if you were married to Joe, you’d understand why.
Here in lies the issue. There is a really darling guy, inside and out, that I keep crossing paths with. We have flirted just for fun because he is much younger than I. Well today I ran into him and I think he wants to ‘fool around’ and being I haven’t had sex in over a year, I found myself thinking about it. I this something I should not consider or would you consider someone just for sex if it consentual.
Im feeling like a ‘bad girl’ but I’m not. Please giver your honest replies. Thanks!
Well, NAP if anyone deserves to have some fun—it’s got to be you!
Just remember that you are your top priority. Safety first. Not just safe sex, but make sure your emotional life is okay too. ARe you going to be okay if its sex and so long? ARe you cool with still running into him with or without it continuing?
But really I want to you have some fun too. And then I want you to write about it.Look, we are all different and all the same. Be you.
love,
Diane.I agree with Diane – you deserve to have some fun! And I also appreciate her suggestions. Be you.
After I divorced my second husband, I got involved with a man seven years younger than me. It was passionate and
he was definitely a little crazy but I don’t regret it. I’m sure I knew it wasn’t going to be for the long-term.
love, LBSweetheart, I say go for it. An honest friendly “safe” good time may be just what you need and you certainly deserve it. We arent virgins and there is nothing wrong with 2 single adults enjoying each other for an evening or two. Be seen, appreciated and desired…..it does a body good! Xoxo and then come back and tell your sisters all about it! 🙂
Just remember you asked for “honest replies”. While I love you dearly and I want you to have fun . . . I think that it’s too early. I think you are way too vulnerable right now.
Also, you don’t know this guy. I mean really know him. I would be afraid to have sex with someone I don’t know very well. How do you know if he’s living two separate lives like our sex addicts did? Do you have a crystal ball and know if he’s ever had sex with hookers? Does he have any diseases? Would he be truthful about it if he did? Who knows.
Personally I don’t think I could do it without getting emotional about it and feeling an attachment to that individual. Plus, I vowed a long time ago to never have sex with anyone unless it was someone I was in love with and committed to. But, that’s just me. Sorry to disappoint!
Much love, Claire 🙂
Amen sister! safe consensual sex between two unattached adults could bring to life that inner cougar in you that ex hubby shot dead with a tranquilizer gun. I say go ahead and let him ring your bell, and a few times at that!!!
Sex with someone you love is absolutely the best, but unfortunately there are times in our lives when we don’t have someone to be in love with.
But, I think we should at least be ‘in like’.
Sexual expression is an important part of any healthy adult woman’s life. It produces a flood of hormones that keeps us young and makes us feel good all over.
Why not test the waters NAP? And remember, you can always say ‘no’ at any time. Just relax and take from it whatever you need.
And, by the way, there haven’t been any ‘bad’ girls since the 50’s.
Maybe we’ll hear a new ‘story’ from you soon?
Thanks all for your honest opinions.  I think I need to really think this over because I don’t want to mess my head up anymore than it already is.  Also, he’s 25 yrs  younger than I am and that seems almost criminal.  I can tell though he’d be very exiting and energetic.  Something I have had since my college sweetheart.  It’s very flattering and kinda sick at the same time……oh well, what else is new?
Love, Nap
I don’t think it’s sick at all. 🙂 After all, what’s 25 (or 30) years among friends?
Those naked tight butts look really fantastic! And the endurance! And those muscled arms and legs.
Okay, I’ll shut up now before I get into trouble.
NAP
I don’t see anything wrong with a little fun. Besides it can be motivation to hit the gym and by new underwear. It can be a nice short term dating / sexy thing.
We just have to watch our attachment to someone much younger. 🙂 It is what it is, kind of thing.
My cousin recently divorced and dated someone 20 yrs younger. She said after awhile it just did not feel right. She met his mother (who was very nice to her btw). And he was a gentlemen for his age. But she said she just felt uncomfortable after awhile. But for the short term. boy did it boost her spirits!!
Consider it a vacation. A gift even. To be enjoyed.
Absolutely!
And, you can practice a little by yourself. 🙂
But, it’s just like riding a bicycle–you may be a little slow at the beginning but once you get going it all just moves forward by itself.
I say go with the flow. Try to maybe atleast just go out with him and see what you think of him. flirting and chatting at dinner….heavenly really. Sounds so nice.
Go on a couple dates and see if he feels safe.
In life we only get one. And always we can always be fooled. Look at us? We all were foiled the trick is to not ignore the early signs…if you are having to convince yourself that anything is okay…then its not…and i mean thewith the guy and what he says.I have a friend, known him for a while, we used to work together. Since ive got divorced we have been going out as friends. He is married his wife is in Hong Kong, and they will probably be splitting. However this is not the moral of my story. The moral of my story got me thinking what about an older man? Like this guy is in his 50’s and he and his friend my my work are the gentleman type, hold the door, let you go first, blah blah blah sooo considerate. Many men are not considerate. However maybe i like the idea of an older man. Hmmmmm. Anyway. Having said that…what is wrong with us being the older women. Nothing.
So as you were thining of going younger…i might try older. Have not done that yet. I think i will add to my list. I have gone younger and that was good too.
Have fun!!
Love ya,
Flora
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