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Having a bad night. SAH practically insisted on my sleeping nude. Now I seem to be obessing that he has distributed nude photos or homevideos of me. Of course it would do me no good to ask and expect an honest answer. I have woken three times tonight in sweats because the fear is building. SO like an idiot I googled our state and town and sleeping wives and of course the sheer number of websites that feature this fetish sent me into tremors.
Thanks for hust veing here to sharw that with. Wondering if my SAH would has
Ask him if he will pose nude for this great website called: “How small can a grown man be?” Tell him they want just after a cold shower shots only. Push back. And NEVER sleep nude unless you want to. Theses fetishes are so whacky!!!
I wouldn’t take a chance in a million years to sleep nude. I’de be going out and getting me some long sleeved zipper shut footed PJ’s, lol.
It’s so creepy that you brought this up though. I never knew there was a thing for this but the thought had crossed my mind before if my H may have thought/done something to this effect. A few weeks ago I awoke abruptly about 3 a.m. and got up to go to the bathroom. I was tired and groggy as I’ve been taking some sort of P.M. medication to sleep at night. On my way around the bed to go to the bathroom I thought I noticed him postured weird like reaching down to the floor on the side of the bed. My 1st thought was that he was looking at something or texting someone on his phone. When I came back to bed he seemed overly concerned about why I got up and if I was okay and feeling all right. This seemed even stranger to me which made me wonder if he was doing something to me just before I woke up. Maybe he was afraid he had been caught. God I need to get a hold of his SD card on his phone. He keeps it with him at all times. When he sleeps it like 8 inches from his head on the charger and it makes a loud beeping noise when connected or disconnected so he would hear it. Grrrr.
Good luck!
~Michelle~No chance of it happening now, H is far away. And I stopped sleeping nude when SA came to light and slept separate usually after the torture porn showed up on my phone. But he asked me very pointed questions about my sleep so often it makes me very very concerned. Wasted though, what can I do about it?
My SA sleeps nude all the time, and while I was living with him it would really piss me off (this is before knowing about his SA and nudist stuff) because I felt like the bed sheets were dirty and that it wasn’t very respectful to me, having his bare ass right there against me. I would ask him to at least please wear boxers to bed, and he did start, but then even in his sleep I would notice he would take off his boxers. It was so weird watching him because he was fully asleep and I always felt confused by it constantly happening. Now I know it was because he clearly was having nudist beach/addiction dreams. Disgusting.
I never slept entirely naked, only topless if we had just had sex or if it was really hot in summer.
He did take naked photos of me unknowingly in the shower, though. According to him he was using his phone.
There’s something that also happened around that very same time which I’m still trying to remember properly and figure out. I haven’t told my therapist yet, but it’s possible he may have taken photos of me during sex while I wasn’t conscious. I was either drunk or fell asleep. Now I feel really ashamed, guilty and so foolish to trust him with my body. I didn’t know he was a psycho addict voyeur. Who knows what occurred, if he got the camera out… Just knowing he had taken the shower photos that very weekend has me spooked. He had a brand new expensive camera plus his phone too. I asked him about it and he said he can’t even remember that night. Hmm.
Michelle, is there a way to put his phone on silent so when it’s unplugged it won’t make a noise when it’s disconnected/connected?
You cannot do anything Lynn. Just think about the kind of people who view those websites and then don’t give it another thought? Certainly “normal” people are NOT going to be wasting their time looking up stuff like that. Karen xx
March is correct though. ALL this sort of behavior is about control and taking way the right to choice for their partner? Thats why once you KNOW the score you don’t let these assholes EVER make a choice for you again.
Control and Power is right. My SAH has flat out said that what he gets off on is the Power and Control of making me do things he knows are repulsive to me.
Victoria~ I wish I could get into his phone to silence it but it’s got this crazy passcode lock on it. He’s gone to a lot of measures to keep me out of his phone.
mushirc – Is the phone in his name? Do you have his ss#? Because you are married, you should be able to call the phone co. with info about him and request a phone log. Or, go on line to the phone co. and set up a user name and password. If he already has it set up, just change pw and have it E-mailed to you.You should be able to access the account and see the call log. Can you get a hold of the account number?
I did that and could view all ingoing and outgoing calls made.Sharron I wish it were that easy. This is a work issued phone and his work handles everything on the billing etc. I’m pretty sure that I couldn’t legally run off with the phone either since it is a work phone and not marital property. Grrrr.
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