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This was in my papers I was looking through for info two days ago. It just dawned on me, that just in case any of you are one there, looking now that you have freed yourself from the SA nightmare, it would be a kindness to tell you all… just avoid this one, Flexi3. Or he may adopted another of his 40+ other screen names, it is usually something with Juggler, Epi, or Flexi in the name. SAH’s Match.com profile is below. He’s also been on and off of Plenty of Fish, AdultFriendFinder, Craigslist, and probaby at least 4 or 5 others that I don’t know. Ashley Madison, I think was one.
Flexi3
I am a hopeless romantic. I am a gentleman from the old school. I still hold doors and chairs for ladies. I love great conversations and I enjoy stories. Juggling is one of my hobbies. It is all about timing and relationships with others. I love to teach others to juggle. I haven’t performed in years but I might make an exception for a special person. I am originally from the West Coast which is why I talk funny. I have a very giving nature. I have been described as a risk taker. If you risk nothing, you gain nothing. I am a passionate fellow. You will see this in my craft and in my relationships. I am a very tactile person. I love walks in the park, however I insist on holding hands. I love to give and occassionaly receive back rubs. I tried to be a stoic once, but my passions keep getting in the way. I refuse to accept a right-handed dominated world. I follow the beat of a different drummer. I don’t take myself seriously but I do take relationships seriously. I am a very adventuresome eater. The hotter, the better.
This was the profile he insisted he did not have throughout our marriage. I found his logons repeatedly and he always denied it. So, I joined Match.com to see. Over a year into our marriage, AND a month into RECOVERY! Yep. There it was. This was copied to my phone on Nov 24, 2011. We were married in Oct 2010. You’ll notice my SAH’s marital status says divorced. Yes, in recovery, counseling, group, 12 step. Doing all the work every night. And this sitting there gathering more contacts all the while.Just saying, you don’t want this one, ladies. Believe me.
*ALERT*
Stay away from Lucky Charms!!!!
He really ain’t all that lucky now that I took him for everything I could!
Oh, and the hung like a horse description? Don’t believe it.
I think even I – the creep filter challenged one – would be a little wary of a screen name “Lucky Charms”!
And mine, flexi he is not, he can’t even touch his toes!!
RED FLAGS: “juggling is my hobby”
“I have a very giving nature and am a risk
taker”
“You will see this in my craft and I’m a tactile
person”
” different drummer, compassionate eater, the
hotter the better”Boy oh boy!!! He puts ALOT of subliminals in his description!
The line I find most ironic: “I don’t take myself seriously but I do take relationships seriously.”
And “Juggling is one of my hobbies. It is all about timing and relationships with others.”
Yeah, he was juggling a wife he was supposed to moving back in, a fiance in another state, three whores, one dating relationship and two hookups – in one month… THAT I KNOW OF NOW, and that means there were more. It always has. That’s quite a hobby.
Yeah, kinda like my ex SAH- who would swear he loves animals and yet…. We were lucky to have a hermit crab or a gold fish!!! Ugh!!! Jack ass!!!
Dang it, Lynn! What site am I suppose to find my next boyfriend on? LOL! Thanks for the post, it made me smile, which has been hard for me to do lately 🙂
Lynng2,
Old files, papers, e-mails, memories..they are all so painful. I am so sorry that you have to go through them, but, from my own experience, I think it does have a cathartic cleansing purpose.
His profile is so typical. They all think they are so clever, but, if you know what you are looking for, they are oh so transparently creepy.
I’ve been around the block a bit on the dating sites and these are ‘creep’ words right off the bat, that, for me anyway, would eliminate this asshole’s profile in a flash:
Juggling
I love to teach
Performed
Risk taker
Passionate
Tacktile
Insist on
Back rubs
Beat of a different drummer
Adventuresome (? I think adventurous is the right term–ignorant but still creepy)
Don’t take myself seriously
Hot or hotterHis profile is even creepier than he was on AC.
Love you lynng2 ~ JoAnn
THANK YOU!!! JoAnn for taking the time to give me that list. Believe me I will use it.
I know it’s a pretty creepy profile. I never saw it until a YEAR after we were married. His profile on the dating site where I met him was much better. Probably because those women he intereviewed with to apply helped all the men with their profiles. They said men aren’t good at writing about themselves. Got that right.
To begin with, every single sentence here starts with “I”. Self centered, a little? Or that passionate risk taker crap. What does that say – HOOKUPS PLEASE.
Oh well, hindsight is 20/20.
Okay, “Juggler” is just weird. I immediately thought “jugs? Is that some sick Freudian slip?” UGH. And juggling is about relationships? Only between the objects themselves. Again weird. Epi? Makes me think of hair removal and that is NOT SEXY. Or may allergic reactions (epi-pen). Again not sexy. And flexi. Um…that’s just plain scary. I have never been on a dating site since I’ve been with the same man virtually my whole adult life. And I’m pretty sure after reading Lynn and SL’s posts (did he REALLY say he was hung like a horse??) I never will be. Seriously creepy. But I did get a good laugh reading all you lovely sister’s reactions. We are all SO much better than this!
Thankfully, I would steer clear of this guy without someone’s warning. I think what women need to do is stay off the sites that help the men put there profiles together. In addition to JoAnn’s list, for me: gentleman: I don’t like being called a lady and I don’t like men who call themselves gentleman. I hear those words and I run for the hills. Recently a counselor I was interviewing over the phone said the words, “join a ladies’ group” as in a support group. End of conversation for me. These words are sexist to the core.
Hopeless romantic, generally men mean sex when they say the word romantic. He talks about juggling as a hobby, as if it’s a big part of his life, then says he hasn’t performed in years. I’m thinking, why is he using the word perform (another red flag word) here? Tactile – holding hands, back rubs, the whole thing is so physical, like those guys in high school and college who thought of dating as a physical thing first. I’d drop them in a New York minute. I mean if someone even tried to hold my hand on the first date, good bye. So why would I meet with a guy who’s talking all this physical stuff in his profile? Absolute give away of creep, creep, creep: I am a very adventuresome eater. the hotter the better. Stay away from sites that help these guys out. Go to sites where they give themselves away.Lynne- This is beat-up on your SA week. He deserves it for what he is putting you through.
You met him via an online dating site- do you think you will use one again after all this is said and done?
No. Teri, I won’t. The one I used had so many screening processes I felt it was actually better than trusting my instincts meeting people at random. I was so burned from ex. I will probably just avoid penises and their transportation equipment from now on. Seriously
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