The Distorted Thinking of an SA

Just when I think I have heard and seen it all, my soon to be ex continues to never cease to amaze me.
He called the other night to discuss the property settlement agreement, and in the process began telling me how he is now cured of his addiction. Claims he all of a sudden had a mind set change and realized that everything I told him in the past was right, and that brought about the miraculous change in him.
He told me now he doesn’t understand how he ever did the d/s fat lady porn or why he objectified women. Claims he triggered one time back in July, but hasn’t had an issue since. Cured in 2 months time?? hmmmmm!
Now this is the guy who was beaten by his dad, sexually molested by a neighbor, and maybe his mother, and live his childhood in his room feeling totally abandoned by both parents. This is the guy who started porn in high school, started the d/s and put his foot under the chairs of female students to endure the pain during the same period. This is the guy who engaged in voyeurism in college and followed a couple of girls home. This is the guy who engaged in d/s porn for 8 years, while married the second time during our relationship, and has objectified women his entire life. Also put his foot under the chair of obese women, who were guests at his house during 2nd marriage, to endure the pain. That would have been just prior to my meeting him 3 yrs. ago.
I asked him if he is cured why he needs continued therapy, and he told me he is only seeing his therapist once a month because he is managing the addiction and feels he has enough knowledge now to do it himself.
Now to listen to Steve, a person on the outside would believe everything he said – he is that convincing. I am not sure if he truly believes he is cured, or it is a manipulation technique to get me back. Who knows-who cares!
Just posting this to let you know how the distorted thinking of an SA probably never goes away. Of course, he may just be crazy like a fox. If so, I don’t fathom how he could possibly believe in his mind that I would think all of this is true and in just a couple of months time he is now void of any acting out or fantasies running through his fucked up brain, which has also been a life-long process.
I may be skewed in my thinking, but I don’t think we can EVER in this lifetime believe a word they say. If an SA is moving his lips, you know he is lying.
Talked to my attorney on Friday. The 60 day waiting period is up October 7th, and he is getting a court date next week.
Can’t wait for an end to this nightmare.