Article on Passive/Agressive

awful what goes on between people.
There’s seems to more damaged people than whole people in this world.

Yes, another good article.

I have a weird question. I think my husband was passive aggressive for sure. I wonder if I was passive aggressive as well? I think I was at times. Did I learn this from him? Or do I have these issues as well. It just makes me nervous. And than I wonder if I am just looking for ways to blame myself still.
AAARRRGGHH
Do any of you do this?

Cindy, yes, you are P(retty)/A(wesome)!

LOL,

That so reminds me of what I ran into day before yesterday. I had to take some documents to the attorney for the closing of the SC house (no, I won’t get anything, it was a miracle there was enough to pay all the fees). The receipts for repairs to the SC house for the sale were in my things and I was supposed to take them in to be included in the dispursements for reimbursement. It was the only thing I knew about the closing, and of course since then I have learned all the information STBXSAH shared with me was incorrect.

When I got there, the attorney, a man of probably sixty and very professional, was visibly shaking and apparently nearly in tears. As soon as he heard me say who I was at the front reception area, he ran up and grabbed my arm and said “Thank GOD you’re here”. I had no idea what was going on. That house was owned by STBXSAH and his previous wife, and I could do nothing.

He started putting docs on the table in front of me, and I see that what I am bringing in is a moot point now, they are way past that point and already closed. I am furious at having had to drive 1.5 hours one way to deliver them. The attorney wants me to tell him why STBXSAH has drug his feet and not returned documents and now the attny has only 45 mins to file something or the whole deal is void and has to be started over ….. the drama ensues. WTF? I was just bringing receipts that got put into my things by mistake.

And I see this so clearly, all these people, that attorney, the assistants, the buyers, STBXSAH’s wife, all in an uproar over STBXSAH’s refusal to simply comply. OBSTRUCTING what is actually a necessary thing he is ORDERED to do on his court orders and has been told he will go to jail if he doesn’t do. But he has to be in control, has to make everyone focus on him. It’s like watching a circus and he’s center ring and I am SO, SO, SO, SO glad I am free of that now.

Passive aggressive obviously, along with a ton of other stuff.
I called him, I told him, DO THIS NOW!! He said, I have. I said, ok thanks. and hung up. I thought the attorney was going to pass out. And then they get a fax of the docs they were waiting on. Attorney races out the door saying he can’t thank me enough. I watch as everyone in there is shaking their head.

This was the professional six figure charmer I married. Everything he touches turns to shit.

We deserve so much better, sisters.

I know someone is going to say why did I even engage in that when he asked? Because now he KNOWS I have over $6K in receipts he needs to file taxes this year. I kept them when I realized that. He told me I could have (I believe is rightfully mine) half the tax return in Jan. It should be over $12K. I need that money.