Update

Hi ladies,

I only purchased a one month subscription here, so this may be one of my last posts. I did want to thank you for your no-nonsense approach to dealing with this issue which has helped me tremendously.

So here’s my update. After putting my SAH out about 2 weeks ago, I believe we did have sort of a breakthrough. When he would come over to spend time with the girls we sat down and had a few very long talks where he would apologize, listen to how what he did made me feel and I actually felt that he was speaking to me from his heart. I asked him questions about the things he did and he answered them – even the ones I didn’t want to know the answers to. He had his work number be changed (I didn’t ask him to do this). He’s agreed to sell his truck and has contacted the lender regarding the process to do this. He says he’s willing to do whatever it takes to make things right had wants to make ammends. He’s been showering me with gifts because according to him “you deserve it” and he will “forever be indebted to me.” Since he’s been out of the house he’s been going to daily meetings etc. I really want to see a change in him, but I’m looking at him and his actions with different eyes now. I’m not letting him seduce me back into submission this time. I am still currently getting help for myself and attending a support group though L.I.F.E ministries which is a 28 week course on dealing with a spouses’ SA and so far it is helping. We both still see our own counselors, but in the future maybe 7 months or so when I finish the course we will seek couple’s counseling. I can see that he really is trying. He’s told my mom, his mom, his aunt, and cousins that he has a sex addiction and has reached out to an assoc. pastor at our church for mentoring which takes alot of the secrecy out of the equasion. He also has a sponser in his SA group that has recently graduated him to his next step and commended him on his progress. He recently got this 6 month chip. He has had a sit down with his mother and step father and addressed the issues he had with her “giving him up” when he was a kid. He is working on the emotional affects of this with this counselor. All that being said, I feel I should give him another chance, but only as long as he’s trying and he understands this. I previously mentioned that we both recommited our lives to God, we both joined the church that we’ve been attending since the summer, he has joined the Lighting Crew so that he can serve at the church and just got a call this AM regarding setting up his baptisim. I know it’s early in the process and he’s going through the motions, but I feel that he is sincere and if anyone or thing can help him with his illness it has to be God so I am cautiously optimistic.

As much as I love this site, I pray to only come back in 2-3 years posting a “success” story… I can only hope. 🙂