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If you could have anything you wanted on the Sisterhood site, what would it be?
Coaching sessions?
Interactive meetings?
More interviews?
Conferences?
Retreats?
Be creative, brainstorm, just give me your ideas.
Retreats for sure! I would also love interactive meetings. The ability to connect with the other girls in real time would be wonderful and would really help during extremely hard times.
conferences,
a publishing arm, ( including self-publishing for those with something to say, but also SOS resources by you and others you may choose to publish)
Coaching and retreats
more interviews for sureRetreats
Book Club (pick a book and discuss)
An interview with Minwalla where we can ask him questions
Growth workshops on the siteI would love all of the above and something like a “registry” for therapists that are good for us. I don’t know if that would require our input or interviews or just someone willing to scout around all the different areas….We are so re traumatized by shitty therapists. Everybody is screaming at us to get help and some of us have no experience with therapists and it’s so hard and frustrating.
It would be nice to have someone available to do “crazy moment” hand holding. I have no idea how that could work or if it is even feasible. There are times we all need to reach out to someone who knows and gets it in the middle of the night. Not a therapist but a real person. It sounds impossible but you said brainstorm.. 🙂
It would be MAJOR if we could get access to legal advice. Not necessarily to do a divorce but someone to guide us thru tricky spots with general advice ( like daisy does already). It could even require a fee or something. It would be nice to even have someone tell us who the great attorney is in our area etc.
I’ll keep thinking. I love “wish lists” 🙂
I think the crazy moment hand holding is really a great idea. Those that are interested could be on an “On Call” list. We could volunteer for a 24hr shift. In the beginning I did not sleep for 3-4 days at a time – I paced my house like a caged animal. Having someone to speak to at 3am really would have helped and I would be happy to volunteer my time to this effort.
Interactive phone meetings – weekly or monthly. Connecting like this would really help especially for those with limited “real life” support and also international girls like myself where it’s not easy to meet up with everyone or go to retreats. There used to be a partner trauma-focused phone meeting that I would call into in 2011, but I don’t know if it runs any more – but I know it was really helpful.
Book Club, Minwalla, Educational material – about partner trauma that we can provide for our supporters/family or non-CSAT therapists, Activism/Campaign for changes in partner treatment and encourage more research – recognition of PTSD, complex trauma (repetitive/prolonged/cumulative), and SA re-framed as abuse, domestic violence/intimate partner violence.
Polls – ability to do real ones in topics.
Retreats!
I’m going to dream big here: SOS safe house where sisters in crisis could go for a respite.
More interviews
Book club (love that idea Nap)
Interactive meetings
I like Diane’s publishing idea tooI am so exhausted from what I have been through. I would see any one of these things as a huge step forward! God, give me them all.
Will be able to think more clearly another time. For now, I just need to rest.
I feel exactly the same as Desiree right now. Just when i thought I was taking leaps forward I feel exhausted again…. hate the feeling….
I am too far for retreats which would be nice so yeah not sure right now.Ok, thinking more clearly for a minute or two……
I want SOS site staff comedians. At present I vote for two fulltime positions 🙂 1) Bev, 2) Diane. Others are in the running for sure Daisy, Terri, JoAnn and so many more.
Love to all of us!
i would love a easy way to read everyone’s story.
not too long, ptsd gets in the way for me sometimes reading long posts, but a simple summary for all the sisters, it’s sometimes hard to keep things straight.
something that each of us could update as important events happen.
thanks for asking joann, you are awesome.
JoAnn, you are doing so much already, I really appreciate your vision in reaching for the next level. How can I help?
The 24 hr call-in sounds good. The “Online Counselors” link on here says it has moved. With sisters on the phone, there may be a concern about the liabilities and qualifications, but that’s a brainstorming idea to toss around. The coach training from Barbara Steffans association will produce people who are qualified. I was hoping to do that, so many other things to do, too, though.
Healing retreats, a list of healing places to go to even if you have a few days.
A link to the National Center for Domestic Violence.
A checklist for how to get the SA out of the house for the first 48-96 hours after discovery.
A checklist for what to have prepared in case you have to escape quickly in emergency circumstances.
This is in keeping with Lisa’s post: it would be great if there was a way to archive groups of posts so they are easily searchable. For instance, have a “Stories” archive where we could pull up all the sister’s stories. I don’t know that we would need a searchable archive for all the groups, just some of the key ones that sisters are likely to refer back to.
Along the same line, it would be helpful to have a legal group for legal questions and discussions. If you are interested, I would be happy to put together a glossary of legal terms for the sisters and post it in the legal group. I have some experience with putting legal terms into layman’s language from my teaching days.
You are so awesome, Daisy
I didn’t even think to offer to do the checklist to get the SA out, I can do that
Or the checklist of what to do to be prepared to get out quickly, I have that somewhere
so much of what I needed came from this site alone. I did really appreciate my time getting together with some of the sisters on this site. That had a huge impact on my outlook ~ making me feel stronger and less of the devastated loser I felt I was.
Heidi sister, you got ‘kick ass’ now!!! You’ve come a long way you should feel proud of all you’ve done and are doing.
Trish,
I’m going to check out that voodoo app sounds good mmmmm will I use it on mr nipple???? Ohhhhhh Yeah…I really enjoyed that one video meeting we did, JoAnn. I can’t remember if it was Skype or Go to Meeting, but it was me, you, and Cindy and then there were others that were posing questions on the chat side of it. I bet we’d have a pretty big turnout now. Maybe do it twice a month so that if someone misses the first one they can join the next one.
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