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Thanks everyone for all the good energy and concern. I love all of you so much.
No drama. He met me in the Wal Mart parking lot, gave me all of Phantom’s stuff, food, toys, clippers, backpack, bowls,shampoo, flea, tick and heartworm meds, etc.
Then he asked if I could bring him a TV when I come to Tallahassee next week for my Dr. appointment. I said he could meet me at the hospital and pick it up.
Phantom is lying right here with me now. He seems much more subdued than he has ever been, but he fell right to sleep as soon as he laid down.
I will keep you posted if I notice any odd behaviors. If I do I will be gathering a posse. ~ JoAnn
Good news! Phantom is probably exhausted from the stress of staying with Larry (who?) and worrying about you.
So glad Phantom is back. They are never well without the people they love best in the world. I once had to leave my Jake overnight at the vet. They called me and said please come take him home he won’t let us take him out of the crate and he just shakes. They said it would be more beneficial for him to be with me watching him than at the animal hospital.(and this was a wonderful loving hospital) Phantom missed you and now that he is home he feels safe enough to relax and sleep…but if it turns out to be something else…I’m in on the posse.
Joann I don’t understand why you keep having interactions with this guy. Why don’t you just cut him out of your life completely?
juniemoon,
Larry (who?) and I are now permanently separated. If I divorce him I will lose my health insurance, TriCare for Life, that covers everything that Medicare doesn’t. I would also lose the widow’s pension, annuities and life insurance. His health is poor, so I don’t see him living a whole lot longer.
He is paying all of the bills here so that I don’t have to tap into my investments except for paying the remodeling loans.
I don’t have to have much if any interaction with him, just bill stuff and sharing the dog. Now, the dog sharing is off the table, so it’s just occasional financial stuff. I handle all the finances and transfer his living expenses into his checking account. He agrees to that because he knows he can’t handle money. He thinks he can, but he has gotten so forgetful he can’t do shit.
So, the contact is minimal and it will stay this way until he dies. At my age (69) it would be foolish to give up that type of financial security and if he had all this money he would just piss it away. ~ JoAnn
Phantom, welcome back baby. Can’t tell you how worried I was about him. So sweet that he relaxed right away with Mommy. I hope the two of you take good care of each other. Never again will you have to worry about him with that other guy.
Much love, Calire
I totally understand JoAnn. He at least owes you that for all he’s put you through, emotionally and physically. I still can’t believe you are 69???
I understand why you are doing what you are doing. He lied to you and led you down a false path……..
I can imagine that you absolutely wish you were NOT in this situation at all.
Joann I knew about your financial matters and insurance and stuff, what I was talking about when I meant no contact was any and all non essential stuff like favours etc. Couldn’t all the business, health and insurance stuff be handled through email and lawyers. Why still have personal dealings with him when all it does to you is dredge up painful feelings and emotions like you described in your post about your dog. Do you really need stuff like that happening to you continually? This is not meant as criticism but concern.
I just love you juniemoon (and I love your name too). How wonderful when the Sisters care for me instead of the other way around.
There are no lawyers involved at this point, and most things are handled via e-mail. I am totally emotionally detached from him, my only stress is when he threatens my financial security because of his stupidity.
So, now that Phantom is back home there isn’t much left. I have 5 TV’s and he has none. He asked for one and I will give it to him. No problem. Other than that, I can’t see any reason for any contact in the future. I have his budgets all figured out, I transfer the money to his checking account on the first of the month and that’s really all the contact we have.
Some of his mail still comes here (necessary in order for me to maintain the extra disabled veterans property tax exemption on the house), so I just scan it and e-mail it to him.
I know you are worried about me, and there is valid due cause based on his actions, but I need you to trust me that I have done everything I can to protect myself and my finances.
Love you juniemoon ~ JoAnn
Thanks Joann luv you back i just hate the thought of that jerk hurting you anymore than he already has
I am so very glad Phantom is home. God, JoAnn, you have been thru hell and back. You are overdue for some good luck. Go buy a lottery ticket 🙂
JoAnn,
I am glad to hear that you and Phantom are home with no more drama. I hope Larry has the decency to leave you alone now.Dear JoAnn,
I know what you are doing and you are smart. It is simple. Don’t let him have phantom or sashie anymore…or anything else you value. Then just proceed as you have. Obviously, Larry (who?) keeps himself busy, which means he will not be bothering you. I am sorry- that he turned out to be exactly like his diagnoses- but at least now he is not acting it out close to you or your life. Try to rest and rejuvenate now and forget him. It will be alright.
Love, karen xI just checked. With his income here in Florida his child support for one child would be $933. per month.
Something else to worry about since he does not like to use condoms. DNA will make you pay.
Fucker. ~ JoAnn
Phantom is snoring loudly!
I never thought I would be so happy to hear snoring.
I love him so much. ~ JoAnn
Even our pets get tired of being around the bullshit.
Poor Phantom…….
I’m glad he’s back where he’s loved the most.
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