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Today would have been my 44th wedding anniversary………1st discovery was anniversary 25. Final REAL separation…….1 month. Be wise in your choices. You get one life and time and chances for happiness pass so quickly. Best to all, saturday
Dear Saturday,
“one life” So true and a loss that so many of us live with daily. The recognition that we gave years to men who used deception and manipulation to prevent us from making informed choices about our lives. There are many losses on this journey- loss of security, loss of trust, loss of optimism, loss of joy, loss of self esteem and sexuality, loss of family, loss of health- both physical and mental and on and on. Just the same, the loss of valuable time may well be the biggest price we pay? For me, that was one of the most bitter pills to swallow. Just the same, swallow it we must and solider on to develop the lives we deserve…with em or with out em. I hope your 45th anniversary, divorced or not, finds you in a more serene place with the rest of your life ahead of you. Karen xx
Saturday, thank you for posting today and sharing this. Your post really touched me, my thoughts and prayers will be with you all day.
Dear Saturday–bittersweet no doubt, but you are moving in the right direction and taking care of yourself. Happiness can come at all different stages in life. Wishing you happiness and peace for the rest of your days!!! Starting NOW! xoxo
Hi Saturday. My “woulda been” 13th was last week so I can relate. I’m sure these milestones will get easier as time goes on, but they can hurt like hell in the meantime.
You (all of us) gave all you (we) could and more. It sucks beyond words that he didn’t have it in him to do the right thing, but you did. Big hug to you, Saturday.
Amy
Daisy, Courtney, Lisak, Amy, BonnieB, kmf………..thank you for your replies. I think at any age, this experience is surreal, just not what you sign on for. Time passes…. Then it’s the discovery, after discovery….with so many commitments and complications, it is sometimes hard to accept what you think you see. Yes, it is deception. Yes, it is selfishness and self absorption on their part. Yes, it is manipulation. And yet, we (I )stood there and took it , again and again. Thinking I was honoring my commitments to everyone in my life. I was. Now, is my time, late in life, but I am ready. My ducks in a row…………..so raise a glass in honor of me……..44 yrs. and all…….here’s to the good life! Thank you for your support. Best, Saturday
Too early to raise a glass here in Arizona, but I promise that tonight Ill have a glass of wine in your honor! 🙂 Cheers!
Cheers, Saturday. I am sending out faith that your time will be so much more wonderful than you ever imagined. It is your time, and you are a fantastic woman with talents and skills and passions that you put on the back burner for others. Now is time to bring them forward and LIVE the life your heart leads you to, and enjoy it to the fullest.
Nice to “meet” you saturday, wish it could be under happier circumstances, happier days are ahead, love, junie
Saturday – what an incredible & painful journey you have been on. Cheers to your continued strength and to much-deserved happiness (with or without your h.)!
Saturday thank you so much for your post. I am still trying to make the decision to divorce. I have been married almost 28 years. My discovery of my husband’s sex addiction was about 4 months ago. Such a shock. It is surreal because I have never seen this side of him – hard to imagine. He is saying he is going to “fit the fight” and being super nice to me now. I know the best and safest option for me is divorce. It’s so hard though because of the “what ifs”. But I see most likely he will slip back into his sexual addiction. Your story gives me strength. Thank you.
raising a glass and toasting YOU saturday!
I am guessing you just did what you were raised to do.
Now it is time to do something different. BTW, what woman was taught to leave her spouse with the 1st indiscretion and put her happiness and well being first because she only has one life to live?
We were all brainwashed in similar ways??????
My best to you Saturday!! It’s been a long haul and now it’s your time. Here’s hoping we can all join you there sooner than later.
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