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Joanne I just spent an hour o. A post about minwalla and neglected to post it in a group forum and it appears I have lost it. Can you dig it out?
I’m so sorry Catherine. I hate it when I do that!! I have started to make a habit of choosing the group for the topic before I start typing…..
I am looking forward to reading your thoughts about the intensive. Don’t give up. It will be very helpful for so many.
If I know I’m going to type a long post, I’ll type it in Word first then copy and paste it into the forum. That way, even if I mess it up and do it wrong in the forum, I still have it in Word.
Can’t wait to hear what happened, Cat. Please try again. I know it’s frustrating.
So sorry. Looking forward to update. Good advice from Joanne awhile back. Type in word document and copy and past on website. This SAVED me a few times.
Will give it another go. Unfortunately I’m on my iPad so I don’t have word. I’m using the wifi in Macy’s at century city so ill give it a go
My first thought when I saw the title of this post was “that’s a little bit of Meg rubbing off on Catherine!” 😀 😀 😀
And why the FUCK would you do that, Cat? Seriously, FUCK has become my word of choice these days. You know it can be used as a Verb, Adverb, Noun, and Adjective! Girl, I am so FUCKING proud of you for going to Hell-A! Love you, Liza
So why curb now? I say FUCK THAT! And “fuckity fuck fuck” too (I miss you Diane!!). Let your Meg flag fly!! 🙂
I did the same thing yesterday. It was a really long post about the trauma my friend is going through and I forgot to add a group and it all went away. I was too disheartened to write it all again.
Suffice it to say that she had her h move out a couple of weeks ago and told him she wanted a divorce. He killed himself on Friday. His family and friends blame her for his death. Her son from 1st marriage, who he helped raise since age 2, is on graduation cruise w/ biological dad, so she’s waiting 2 weeks until he gets back to tell him and have a memorial service. She’s raking herself over the coals in the meantime. Any words of advise from you ladies that I can give her?
xoxo AliSuicide is such a sick, desperate, and selfish move. So sorry for your friend and what she’ll have to put up with. Of course it is not her fault.
This is something I worry about at times. My Sa h was suicidal at some point – before D day- with a full detailed plan which he was going to carry out had his HIV test (and mine and the baby’s) had been positive. When he told me I got very angry at the narcissitic thought process… Checking out when it gets too rough. But that is what the behaviour is: total selfishness and of course a real mental disorder. Suicidal people don’t get my empathy. All the empathy should go to the people behind. What a legacy to leave for your family and friends.Dear God Ali,
It is NOT her fault. Not at all. The choice to live or die is very personal and no one forces someone to end their own life. I always think that people who kill themselves are temporarily insane at the point they do it. It goes against our deepest survival instinct…the animal in all of us.
I can see that she would be devastated and of course his family and friends will lash out at her. BUT that is all it is- lashing out. No one in their right mind really believes you drive someone to kill themselves by asking for a divorce.
It is a real tragedy all around and I would imagine your friend might need some counselling unless she is really well grounded. I don’t know what the circumstances of her divorce were but divorce doesn’t cause suicide…I know that.
Karen xxOMG Ali, that is just awful. That poor woman. I understand if she feels guilty and also the reactionary response of his family but like the other Sisters said, she is NOT to blame. Obviously there was something else going on there. Can you help her find a good therapist? She’s going to need one.
If you post and forget to choose a group usually a box comes up and reminds you to choose a group.
If you hit a wrong button the ONLY way to get back to it is to click the ‘back’ arrow on your browser. If you do that before you do anything else you will get back to the box you were typing in.
I know how absolutely maddening it is, I have done it many, many times. ~ JoAnn
Thanks for the user tips Joanne.
Catherine, sorry to hijack your post. I’ve really enjoyed all of your posts updating us on Minwalla!
I think suicide is the ultimate narcissistic act. “Everyone mourn me”. Asshole. She’s too distraught to see that clearly, so I just keep sending her texts that I’m thinking of her and holding her in my heart, etc.
I do have to say Daisy that Catherine had a lot of “fucks” in her without my help – maybe seeing me libertated it in her but it is definitely there:-) xo
I do have to say Daisy that Catherine had a lot of “fucks” in her without my help – maybe seeing me liberated it in her but it is definitely there:-) xo
Does “fuck” with an Australian accent sound more civilized than coming out of our American mouths?
🙂Somehow I missed that you’re British, Meg. I love reading the sisters’ post with the accent that I think they have. To me, everything sounds better with an accent!
I’m so sorry abut your friend Ali. No one can prevent suicide and it is no one’s fault. I hope your friend seeks counseling. She should not feel guilty but I suppose we would all ask ourselves that question. Remind her that her feelings are normal but not accurate.
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