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Pornpig has been paying my support through the government support program because of his abuse. He has been paying later and later meaning I get my money later and later, and so has my landlord, etc. I called the government agency to complain, and apparently the government guy called pornpig’s boss and was talking garnishment, nothing I suggested. Well guess what. The very next morning, I went downstairs to my car and two of my tires were slashed very badly and the passenger door lock was completely destroyed. I immediately called the police but they would not even come by or take a report or go to his house to talk to him. Their excuse is that if no one saw him there was nothing they could do. I told them he had broken into my apartment before when he refused to give back my keys and they had done nothing about that then either. No wonder women get injured or killed, police do nothing when women are threatened. Men get emboldened by police inaction to do worse and worse things. This also cost me over two hundred fifty dollars, money I could ill afford but thanks to my kindly mechanic who knew somewhat of the details charged me a very reasonable price. I AM SO SICK OF HIM GETTING AWAY WITH HIS HIS SHIT AND I ALWAYS PAY THE PRICE!
What a juvenile delinquent. This is so unjust. To serve and protect my ass, except for Kimberley, our resident ninja taser. Thank God for your good mechanic. Sounds like he’s a good man.
At least your report is documented in connection to your complaint for nonpayment and I’m sorry you have to pay money you don’t have for his antics.
That is frightening. Please don’t go out alone, can you go to a new location while this is being worked out?
At least you have called the police and you can request that they write a report every time you call, and then go to the station and get a copy. Keep them and use them in court hearings. You can also use them if you want to file a protective order. They will probably frown or such when you ask, but they have to do it if you ask. At least here they do.
I know it’s maddening. They do get away with nearly everything. The police were impotent in my times of need for protection, too. That’s why I have a gun now. SJ knows I will use it.
Next time call the police and say you did see him. Maybe you might possibly be mistaken but you think it was him?
Why not?
I’m sorry but why can’t the cops just go ask a few questions? At least he might think twice next time.
I know how you feel, Juniemoon. No one would do squat for me when doc e called and threatened to take Bat, saying there was nothing I could do about it. I even had it recorded. It’s maddening.
Junie,
Your h/xh does sound scary. Please protect yourself as best you can. Slashing tires is quite sign of what he is capable of. So sorry you have to deal with all this.His having the key is what gives me chills. At minimum changes the locks. Your kindly car mechanic can probably help.
I don’t think he has the key. I think he was trying to jimmy the lock. I am going to go in person to the cops to try and make a report after I get back from visiting my son in California next week. Right now I am driving with an expired licence because I can’t afford the fee to renew it (son is paying for all the trip) and obviously cops would find out if I went down to the station right now it’s bad yes I know). I had to spend three hundred fourty to get the damage to the car fixed. His crap behaviour is escalating. First the physical violence, then the breaking into my place with some skank and leaving the taunting message, now the tire slashing. It IS getting scary he IS getting bolder because he is getting no consequences. This has to stop. I don’t want to be found dead in some alley.
Start a paper trail Junie. Even if the police don’t arrest him you can have them file an incident report, take pictures if you have them of the car. I had a neighbor, really nice however from an accident had her leg amputated. She suffered from severe phantom pain and at times had to take significant amounts of pain meds. One day she went into a drug induced pychosis (I didn’t know this at the time) and she came over to my house and threatened my eight yr old daughter at the time with a metal or hard wood batton and she acused me of telling the Drs I was calling on at the time she was having sex with all of them. My daughter and I were so scared we jumped in the car and filled out a police report at the station for documentation in case she ever hurt anyone else. In hindsight we realized it was her meds but we felt our lives were threatened.
A paper trail is a good idea. I went to the condo management to tell them about him. I am going to give them a picture of him and tell them to call the police if they see him around. He has no legitimate business being on the grounds as this is private property and my son no longer wants to see him. Also will give one to security. I need to ramp this up. He is getting to cocky. Thanks everyone for the advice. It’s just hard because authorities just don’t ever seem to take me seriously.
Forgot to mention as he has committed a crime on condo private property this would be under their laws, grounds for permanent ban off their property as it is (I rent from the owner of a unit)
I’m with Bev. Next time say you saw him. I mean who else would be doing this to you? If you are sure it is him, say you saw him.
Junie, I am so so sorry you are dealing with such a nutbag. It seems to be contagious in the SA world. We have all dealt with so much crap. I hope they come up with better treatment for these guys. I often feel like we are the guinea pigs in this mess. Some day they will use our stories as case studies. In the meantime my lawyer says to take pictures and document everything. As far as the police go, half the time they are assholes themselves. My STBX is a family physician. He gives the local police free visits, and sends them home with a goodie bag of viagra samples.
I think bev had a great idea! its a shame you didn’t say that. I would also recommend getting a guard dog- I know it might be too expensive right now but that is scary.
he seems violent and im worried for you.
I’m trying to brain storm other things you could do?
I would also call a domestic abuse place- maybe you could get pfa?It’s scary how the law works. Really. I mean this happened to you right after a payment issue? It’s no brainer!
Why won’t anyone do anything?I am so sorry. Please have your locks changed immediately.
That is really scary and his violence could very easily escalate. That is just beyond bold- it’s frightening.
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