No insurance, or …?

SJ sent this today:

According to section 6 of the agreement, “Husband shall maintain a policy of health insurance for the Wife and Wife’s children’s benefit by paying the premiums thereon at his sole expense, provided such insurance is available through Husband’s employer at a reasonable cost.” Because of your decision to divorce me, I will not be able to provide you or your children with medical insurance for the following reason. The expense of providing medical insurance is provisional upon being offered by my employer if you are related to me. According to the state of North Carolina, we are no longer related. The insurance company will not cover “non-related” persons. Therefore I am unable to provide it for you.

I just replied:

Thank you for notifying me.

*****

In keeping with the schedule I’ve experienced since marrying SJ, it’s my usual bi-weekly kick to the gut. HOWEVER, he elected for the insurance deductible to be 8K, and so I was paying out of pocket for nearly everything and it was choking me. Now, because I finally have a written statement that we are NOT eligible under any other policies, I can supposedly get state insurance with a much better rate and no deductible. I have been asking him to send me proof that we’re off his policy for over a year. He has been refusing because he said it would make him be in violation of the separation agreement. I told him it wouldn’t. Apparently, now that he’s decided he won’t pay the amount he agreed on the separation agreement, and the police didn’t show up at his door, he is going to decide to not do other things on the agreement, as well.

So while this email from him was of course meant to say “You screwed up and divorced me and now look what you have to suffer, stupid bitch” it actually reads “Thank GOD I’m off his screwed up policy and can actually afford medical care for the children at last.” He doesn’t know that, and I don’t care. My attorney and his HR manager assured me he could still carry the children as stepchildren on the policy until they are 25. I’m not going to argue the point. I’d rather have the insurance here, in my name, even if it’s state insurance. Less $, hassle, and connection to SJ. He just proves over, and over, and over that he has not a stitch of moral fiber in his being.

🙂