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I woke this morning to find an email from Steven that said:
can we talk?
I responded: why?
He replied: I want my stuff.
Needless to say, I just feel like he put another dagger in my heart. I can not even express how hurt and outraged I am. It’s been two months without a word from him. And after he dumped me in Miami and left me in New York with all the living expenses?
I replied to his 4 words:
In the future, do not contact me. Refer all communication relating to our settlement and divorce through your attorney and I will do the same. Thank you.
Oh Bren, I am so sorry he hurt you like that. Just more proof that he is totally self centered. You did the right thing.
Thanks, Lynn. He doesn’t even sound like a man. He sounds like a little boy who wants his toys back.
Exactly. And that’s about what we are safe to expect from them. What you would expect from a little boy.
I was naive enough to think that he actually wanted to apologize for how horribly he ended our relationship. But deep down, I knew that he reached out because he wanted something and he would manipulate his way to try and get it. That no matter what he said to me I would not be able to believe that it was 100% real or true.
Bren,
You sure did do the right thing. Let him contact his lawyer if he needs to communicate with you. You don’t need to talk to that AH. I agree with my dear sister Lynng. Keep being strong Bren. You won’t regret it.
Love, NapBren,
I did the same. I thought he would apologize and jump in front of a train like he said he would because he loved me so much. Neither happened. The train part would be okay.
Hugs, NapThanks, NAP. I guess my wounds are still fresh. The coldness in his emails got to me. What an AH! A total narcissist. It has been and will be all about him. He doesn’t have a clue about the devastation he left for me.
Geez they are pathetic aren’t they. After all we put up with they can just act like nothing ever happened. These guys I swear are not men there little children in adult bodies.
You should have replied with 4 words. “I set it all on fire”. LOL no you did the right thing telling him to contact your attorney. Make him work for his stuff. Don’t make it easy for him
Misse, thanks for your support. Trust me, I wanted to say a lot more. I was just as COLD in my reply. He’ll hate it … he lost control and he doesn’t get his “stuff”.
Good job Bren, you did exactly the right thing. And yes, I think it’s time to call in the pit bull. You will not get any sort of reasonable response from him. You need someone who is going to fight like hell to get you everything possible.
Liza, I think we all need a charm of some sort engraved with “FT” to use as a talisman when times get tough. We could hold it in our hand and be reminded that our sisters are standing with us. Maybe when her holiday rush is over our sister Deborah who has the jewelry business can come up with a design for us.
Bren,
What a slap in the face from him. They never fail to disappoint.
There is no point waiting for them to say they are sorry. Even if they say it, they do it to make themselves feel better, like they are really a nice guy. It’s not about taking real responsibility.
Damn straight, call in the pit bull. Don’t think twice about that.
My God….what a despicable creature he is. Not even a ” I hope you are ok.” I would burn his stuff. You handled it perfectly though Bren. I’m sorry. I’m sorry in ALL the ways he should have been. BIG HUG Karen xx
Daisy, thank you for your compassion and empathy. You are right. I realize again that he is devoid of any kindness or rational thought.
Teri, it did feel like a slap in the face and you are right about not waiting for the apology.
Karen, thank you. I was shocked that he was so cold and had no concern for me whatsoever. Despicable is right. Thanks for the hugs.
Cold does not even begin to cover it, Bren. I know you are hurting and I won’t bother saying that you shouldn’t be…. BUT you are well rid of him. He is really a terrible human being.
He left you in a hotel in Miami on your anniversary….
You ended up hospitalized.
You were raw and bleeding when I chatted with you at first on this site.
I’m surprised he didn’t have his latest hooker call for or text for him.
Get the pitbull and burn his shit.
I know. Dammit. I am so upset and pissed. I have spent. the last two months crawling out of this black hole. He stole my happiness and smile and will to live. I now have hospital bills and a wake of financial challenges and the asshole wants his stuff? Thanks, Bev.
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