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What the %$#^& is up with this freakin’ book? If one more person asks me if I read it, I’m going to say: “No. I lived it. I wrote it. Now I’m divorcing it.” 🙂 If and SA marriage isn’t a sex contract for a marriage of pain & torture, I don’t know what is! I can’t find a review that says it’s anything but poorly written S & M. I did have one friend argue that his wife read it “just to be informed” and that “it was just a book.” I’m thinking people either read it and throw it away because they are so turned off…of we’ve got a national epidemic of female pornsters who are really into S & M. I told my friend I was going to take the topic to the experts….my SOS line. So, what do you girls think about the 50 Shades phenomena? I think we should write “50 Shades of SA” before the G/L community beats us out there with “50 Shades of Gay.” 🙂
Looks like you just did it yourself. 🙂
(nope, it’s still there–I’ll just leave both of them as both have comments).
It’s a sign–it’s doubly important! ~ JoAnn
Oh God – My husband just recently purchased this book on iTunes. What is it? It sounds like Just another way for him to act out. And another nail in his coffin.
I was in a restaurant last week and a table of women beside me spent most of the evening discussing this book. Each and everyone of them (mixed ages) seemed to be completely enamoured with the male character. A few days ago I signed onto my KOBO to order a book and all I could see was advice on what to read AFTER 50 Shades of Grey-as if nothing else will compare?? Finally, I was in the grocery store line up and there was a 50 Shades of Grey magazine! I was floored. The book has its own magazine?? I don’t know what to think. Karen xx
Exactly Lynn.
That movie is dangerous on so many levels. Desperate women from all over the world have been deceived into thinking that hooking is glamorous and will land them a Richard Gere (whom I thought was fucking creepy in that movie).
It’s one of Larry’s favorite movies. Julia Roberts (one of his fantasy actresses) as a beautiful, kind hearted, smart, witty, sexy prostitute. It just doesn’t get any better than that for him. ~ JoAnn
Any man who picks up a prostitute is by definition creepy.
Maybe we as a society have become so anesthetized by the constant exposure to overkill that BDSM represents a way to feel something? I don’t know.
As I said in the other thread, I didn’t make it through the entire book but from what I did read, the appeal to a man would be the ability to have any sort of kinky sex he wants with any woman he chooses with no emotional ties. For the women who make up the primary demographic? Rich lover who buys them cars, etc.? “Love” conquering the distant, controlling lover? I’m not sure. I thought it was dreck on so many levels.
The “love conquers all” thread of this book is ridiculous, too. A man with sexual compulsion does not just turn around because some woman loves him and tries to understand him and show him he is cared about now matter how screwed up he is. Unconditional love conquers sexual addictions. Hello!?!? What the F(*k are we all doing here if that were the way it ends?
And the way this woman is ‘enlightened” to recognize her true sexual “capacities” is a porn addict’s wet dream. NOT NOT NOT NOT happening. Maybe to a woman who is completely brainwashed into believing that’s how she is supposed to feel if she’s truly enlightened.
It’s a pubescent fantasy and a disaster that it hit the mainstream market. The most viscious of BDSM players will have dozens of Grey “wannabes” at their beck and call. Do you think those young girls, or heck, older women, are going to ask for help when they realize they’ve walked themselves into an abusive situation and ASKED to be violated and beaten? Hell no.
My cousin’s wife works in a DV shelter and she is absolutely freaked out about these books and rightfully so! As you said Lynn, it’s a disaster that the idea that it is sexy and cool to dominate and abuse women is becoming mainstreamed because of these awful books and the whole BDSM fiction genre they have spawned.
I remind anyone who thinks that book describes the BDSM scene to remember what my STBXSAH said when I asked him if he ever thought of me in that way, in his scenes, and he said “No, because you are beautiful and you are mine and I don’t want you disfigured.”
We’re talking permanent scarring, here. Maybe sexually compromised for the rest of your life. Missing nipples maybe, possibly sterilized from internal injuries. This is not a “rising to the heights in ecstasy” in the arms of your lover situation. This is a, won’t take you to the ER because how would you explain this? situation.
Not all, of course, but since this is an escalating compulsion, how will you know how far your “dom” has gone unless you’ve been with him a long, long time AND (the real impossiblity here) he has always been completely honest with you about ALL his sexual and other behaviors.
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