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I received this e-mail yesterday and thought I would post it here in case anyone is interested. If you do contact her be sure to let her know that you got the info from JoAnn at the Married To A Sex Addict website.
Hi JoAnn:
I’m a New York-based writer at work on a story for Cosmo about women who have been involved with men who lead a double life of some sort. The idea behind the story is that it’s easy to fall for a guy who’s charming, seemingly normal, never realizing he’s actually a … (fill in the blank).
Wondering if you know of any women ages 20-35 (the Cosmo demographic) who unknowingly married a sex addict? If so, I’d love to fill them in on the details of my story and see if they’d be interested in sharing their story.
Kim Goad
212-371-1319
ksgoad01@msn.comheres a question maybe even a poll but are many of us older that 35 i know i am it seems to me that many of us are older and i wonder does that come into play that the older we get the less we tolerate or maybe accept with our partners those red flags are easier to see or something
That is exactly what I was thinking, Katt. I wish the poll would include all ages to get accurate results, and reflect what comes into play with all women who marry a sex addict.
Good idea. I think the current poll about age differences pretty much proved that there was no significant, or even interesting differences there, so it’s time for a new one.
Watch for the new poll. But, since our membership here is limited, I will also post the poll on the Married To A Sex Addict site.
And, just my comment here, the same thing has happened twice in the past, once when the new Oprah Winfrey Network contacted me and again when Glamour magazine contacted me. They want the young and the photogenic.
I think that if they don’t wise up and realize that the population is aging, and those of us over 35 are not only in the majority, we hold the purse strings of the nation. We have a voice and we are not ‘over the hill’ nor are we insignificant.
Regardless of our photogenicity, (and they would probably be pleasantly suprised!), if I were a young wife/partner I would be hungry for the stories of the long-term relationships and how they played out before and after disclosure. Some found out early and kept hoping, but a majority found out really late in the game and are now dealing with this “new reality”. I would find it really interesting regardless of my demographic.
i was just looking at the poll between both site a total of 59 partners polled only 14 could do the cosmo interview
IMO we were all to busy believing and trusting and forgiving whatever symptoms of objectification we were experiencing at those younger ages. I married the only addiction that wasn’t even identified in 1992. And for so long they are able to hide it so well. If Oprah, Anderson or Cosmo wants 46, count me in!
Cosmo may have a younger demographic readership but these young women MAY want to hear about an older woman`s experience…. The reporter should change her opinion about age and just get the story straight (IMO).
These guys were screwing around on us when we were 25!!! I have pics of myself at 25…. He was NOT screwing around because I was ugly or old!!
the very fact that they are looking for ‘young’ women in the magazine story, is a symptom of the objectification of women and the idolatry of youth. it has very little to do with the demographic of the magazine, and unfortunately becomes part of the bigger problem. too bad.
Since SA is progressive, maybe some of it is that it takes a certain number of years before they get so out of control that we catch them or they start to get sloppy after getting away with it for so long? A lot of them are at around typical mid-life crisis time of life, it seems like, so maybe that factors into it?
Seems like age 20-35- a lot of women aren’t even married or haven’t been married very long. They wouldn’t have had much time to discover the double life, sort through all the gaslighting, go to several rounds of marriage counseling, and finally realize what is really going on.
I think katt is so right
We do learn so much about ourselves as we age, for me i began appreciating all of my qualities, good and bad, which led to the start of self love, and the end of continually accepting unacceptable behavior.
The prople at cosmo are missing an opportunity to hear from people w experience w s a and experience w life its pathetic really consodering most women now don’t get married until later and unless u stumble upon this the early years per kids it is likely u will not find out until u are (gasp) post 35Face it… Cosmo was a bunch of woman hating crap when I was 25 and it still is…
One more article about how to please your man and I will puke and did at 25 too.
Now, they want to write a hard hitting article about avoiding the pitfalls of SA, but they only want to hear from the young women? Pure stupid… not surprising.
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