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So, I spoke too soon. I received the offer letter for my job and they do an “Education Check”. Well, on my resume I have Marist College 1994-1998. That is true. Alas, I had to drop out last semester to have a baby and I am about 15 credits shy of graduating. Well, more now, because I’m sure some of my credits have staled. A Bachelor’s degree is required according the job description. I didn’t lie, but I didn’t tell the truth, so I guess I lied. I let everyone believe that I have a degree. It is inferred by going to college for 4 years. No one has ever checked. In this day and age, they check everyone though and for good reason, because obviously there are people like me out there. So, do I just turn down the job or do I tell them I can’t take it because I’m a liar liar pants on fire. I feel an overwhelming urge to confess.
I was so hoping that this would mean that I would be able to make a clean break from Dum-Dum. I’m so bummed. It’s my fault, but I’m still so bummed. I wasted all those nice people’s time by being untruthful.
I’m such a GIANT ASS.If all you wrote were the dates, not the degree, and you didn’t tell them you graduated, then you didn’t lie, stephanie.
Well, I didn’t tell the truth either! What should I do? Come clean and say I still want the job or just turn it down?
You told the truth as far as I can tell. You say where you went to college and the dates. You DID go there then. You didn’t say you got a BA or BS.
So, you can call them and tell them you want to make absolutely clear that you don’t have a degree or say nothing at this point.
They may not really care or they make an exception for you, Stephanie, since you did well on the task they gave you. Happens all the time.
Maybe you should just hold tight. Let them check. Or maybe they get transcripts, which would show you have four years of education. If you didn’t put BA of Whatever or BS of Whatever, you might be ok. If you were asked directly whether you had a degree, different story.
I confessed. I just got a email back saying it is okay that I don’t have the degree. The experience is more important and the job offer still stands. So ladies, I AM GOING TO TAKE IT AND I ALSO AM GOING TO CRY!
Go cry some happy tears. You are awesome. We see it, your new employer sees it, now we just have to get YOU to see it. Once you do, you’ll have no problem whatsoever leaving that douchebag in your rear view mirror.
I’m just wondering if you should file for divorce/kick him out now so you don’t end up paying him spousal support?
Teri! I was thinking the same thing! I don’t start this new job until January 7th. So if I do it now, it would be hard to get spousal support. So awful that I waited this long. We were married 10 years on November 29th. It is now considered a long term marriage which means he could be entitled to spousal support. I’m hoping not, I’m hoping that child support he would have to pay would be more than any spousal support to him!
I am so glad it worked out. You had me worried there for a minute.
I hope you are serious about getting away from that low life. And I hope he gets staff infection from his dirty bathroom 🙂
Dear Last Straw,
STOP putting yourself down. I am bloody THRILLED for you and so excited for you!! I needed some good news today to offset Trish’s news and you have cheered me right up. 😉 Get a lawyer and protect your new job. Do it Stephanie. Now is the right time….. YeeHawwwwwwwww Karen xxx
I’m with Karen,
Get on this with a lawyer. Use this time to look after you and children legally. NO fooling around here stephanie. This is your new life you are creating. don’t be afraid of it. It’s meant to lead you to something good. don’t go back to that stupid voice in your head saying “who are you kidding, this isn’t going to work”. That voice is another liar. THis IS Going to work. Get on that lawyer and know how this will play out.
Honey it’s really happening. You made it happen. We watched. We are witnesses.
We don’t love you because you are perfect. We love you because you are like us and when you get somewhere it helps us believe we can too. We all have shit, sister. Don’t you dare back away from the goodness coming your way. It’s just the Universe responding to the small and big changes you have made in your own life. You created new opportunities.
Go buy a new lipstick.
love,
Diane.Thank you Diane. I love that you realize that that voice is still there “who are kidding, this isn’t going to work.” I’m absolutely terrified, but you know what? I didn’t go through this shit for nothing. I am going to come here every day if I have to. EVERY SINGLE DAY to make sure I keep hearing and seeing positive things. I will go to my therpist and let her kick my ass. I will tell my friends that I’m scared and need support because this is the right thing for me. I will not back down. I’ve come too far. Thank you all. Please know I will badgering all of you for a month while I do this 🙂
Love always,
StephanieYes!! Amen sistas! It’s your moment!! Don’t panic. If you get cod feet go back and read your posts. This IS the life you have with him. No turning back, no turning back.
Love,
Debora
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