Daisy – me, too! This so hits the nail on the head, I found myself mentally thinking “Amen!” to everything she wrote! I think the lack of closure is so it for me – I have “moved on” and know I will never go back to him yet I’m still obsessing over what he’s doing and where & how he’s spending money and it’s like I’m trying to find the ONE thing that puts the whole puzzle together. And it’s not going to be like that, I have to learn to accept that and focus on me and not on what he is or isn’t doing. No step in this journey is an easy one. I thank each and every sister on this site for their wisdom & courage in helping me and everyone else on this journey. Love you, ladies!