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I have been contacted by the OW again. I think it’s her, it’s such a bizarre scenario, it must be, because this chick is truly fucked in the head. My husband acted out with two women, she is one of them.
Anyway…D’s affair with V was back in 2009. She sent him a No Contact letter which he abided by. For some reason, she decided it would be a great idea to track him down via me through Facebook 2.5 months ago. This took a lot of work on her part to find me. Long dramatic story short, it ended up with D sending her a No Contact letter, me calling her husband, E, blocking her on FB, blocking her husband on FB. End of story.
Two weeks later, I get a message under “others” on FB from someone else-it’s her under an alias. I fire off an extremely hateful email to her. I mean, an email that I was down right rude, I called her a worthless object that dropped to her knees, and tell her to fuck off and leave us both alone once and for all. I also send an email to E letting him know there has been further contact. I didn’t hear anything back from anyone so I left it alone and washed my hands of it. That was two months ago.
I got an email the other day allegedly from E saying he has more questions about 2009. I had originally offered to give him help if he needed it so this was not a surprise. I set up a time to call but when I do, I get HER voice mail. When I verify the number from 2.5 months ago, it’s different so I called the number from June and it rolls over to HER voice mail again….it made me sick to my stomach. So, I gave up.
I am at a loss what to do. My gut and common sense tells me to just let sleeping dogs lie and not respond to the email. If it was really E, he will email again wondering why I didn’t call. Or, he’ll see the missed unknown number and see that I tried. I know that I’m not going to make another call again – I do NOT want to hear that bitches voice again. Thoughts anyone??
On the plus side, I took the anger and hate I feel towards V and used it to go to mall with my daughter today. The first time I have been to the mall in 8 months 🙂
SS these people have nothing to offer you. If he had more questions he should have taken you up on your offer back then. You can’t be dragged back into it at their (her?) whim. Let it go if there isn’t anything u really really need to clarify with the husband. Take good care of you and forget these toxic people. XO Lylo
Again honey. no contact. no contact means no contact with him or her or it. You don’t owe that dude a thing and again, if he wants to know more information he can always ask the one who was THERE, his skanky wife! If they persist in harassing you, you can always report them to the police.
xo ~ L
and I’m glad that you’re okay. I’m in such a state, I didn’t feel a thing. Perhaps my inner earthquake was at the same magnitude as the ground shaking beneath me.
You guys are right. I am leaving it alone. Let her fester. I haven’t heard a thing back either way no matter who it was.
Lexie – We felt the earthquake but now my worry is the hurricane. We are looking at a pretty close call. I got my supplies today and will be bringing in the lose items tomorrow. I love my beach but not the hurricanes!
Ok, as I typed this, the fucking bitch just emailed me again. This time she’s talking about my kids. She’s now talking about how they look like their daddy (who is not my husband’s) and how she thinks they are related to HER husband. OMG. I’m not going to respond but this chick is nuts. Just need to vent. I fucking hate her right now.
Does anyone know if this is considered harassment? I’ve already emailed her twice, once on Facebook and once through email instructing her not to contact me in any way. My husband has also done the same thing.
Thanks.
SS,
You could change your email. A hassel but might be worth it? She is just attention seeking. Don’t respond in ANY way and if you can manage it change your contact details. As I said…why don’t they just marry the lunatics that they act out with and leave the rest of us alone?? Karen
Given that she seems to know your personal info, i would be a little creeped out. Does she know where you live? I am not sure if the law covers email harrasement, but you could see if you can file some sort of complaint so atleast what has happened can be documented.
Better to be safe than sorry with this i think.
FloraThe thing that creeps me out the most is mentioning my kids name. I don’t like that shit at all. I’m doubtful the law would cover email because it’s probably considered spam (?) but given the personal nature I’m just not sure. I’m going to go down to the police station and talk to someone.
Here’s the email:
Hello, SS.
Since you are in contact with E, does that mean I should stay in contact with you? The only reason I looked for you on FB, (you are still very easy to find, btw. As am I. The internet is a wide open place.) was to apologize. I knew it was both of you, and I was hoping to say I was sorry to both of you. If you hadn’t already have known, I was gonna just wing it. I really am trying to start over. Obvioulsly D was one of many. I had a long list. Addictions are like that. Mine wasn’t about love, or sex, or even self esteem. I have plenty of all that. It was about excitement and danger. After I came clean to E about some of my online activity, I tried to contact all of the people I hurt. I am hoping to move on with my life, but I’d be more than happy to talk to you whenever you want. My number is (boy it’s tempting to give it to you guys *evil grin!!!*)
Regard,
VPS
Make sure you ask him about the *first husband’s last name*. I’m sure you’re related. Your son, R, looks exactly like E at that age.
Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry***end of V’s email to me***
Crazy psycho!! I’m guessing her next step is to call me, as far as knowing where I live, since she found me on FB, I guess it wouldn’t take much but she keeps spelling my boys’ last name wrong, so that’s good. But, she knows my last name now. She does live in a different state though. Just not sure how nuts she really is.
I talked to D when he came home and he wanted to call her and her husband. D was livid! I told him a conference call between the four of us was the last thing I wanted or could handle mentally right now or ever. I am going to leave her alone.
Thanks
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