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I have started a new group for those of us who have moved forward and are ready to dip our toes into the dating pool.
I have several friends here on the island who like to play matchmaker, but the opportunities here are slim, so I joined match.com
I see that several other Sisters, like March, have also jumped in.
I think it’s good for all the Sisters here, even the ones who are staying, are on the fence, or who are terrified of moving on to know that there is another world out there that has a majority of normal, nice people.
I will chronicle my experiences and I hope all of you will too. ~ JoAnn
JoAnn – I think that is a wonderful idea! As I just posted on March’s “UpDATEs”, it is so empowering to hear positive dating stories – even if (and maybe it’s for the best) they don’t lead to the “love of your life” – it’s good to know that there are good men out there who value us as women and all that we have to offer.
Best of luck to you on this new stage of your journey & I look forward to hearing all about it!
Christine
I have heard from this seemingly nice man in Tallahassee. I think I will rely on my Sisters to catch any red flags. I think I would see them, but you never know.
Here is who he is and below that is the e-mail he sent me. Any advice or direction is more than welcome.
From his college days:
http://nolefan.org/hof/tschirret_mike.htmlWho he is now:
https://twitter.com/mike_tschirretWhat he wrote to me (after I had replied back to him about a ‘wink’ he had sent me before I was a member and could not e-mail him):
Hi JoAnn,
I’ve always felt good things are worth waiting for and all things happen for a reason. I think you, very well, are a good reason.
I was a member years a go and got a “We want you back” freebie offer. I took advantage of it, and here I am, again. Thank you match.
I love St George, I was in a group of people who were going to build a large home for rental purposes and occasional person use. It fell thru because one of the guy’s wife could decide whether to have a widow’s walk or not. I, by the way, wanted a widow’s walk. Funny, but true.
Had a great trip to Peru. A bit of altitude sickness up at Lake Titicacca,
but all else was pretty special. Wouldn’t go again but need to see Rome and the Greek Islands for next big trip. I’ve been all over the world but never to Rome, can you believe that. Wanna go? Pack comfy stuff, one
large bag, so we don’t have to drag too much from city to city. OK?We are so close, it will be very easy to arrange a meeting. Let’s communicate and work it out. My profile pretty much tells you about me, but my life is an open book, to learn more, just turn the page. I am extremely honest, don’t make demands on others, but honesty is a must for me, to give and to receive.
Let’s talk. My home email is miketschirret@comcast.net and phone is 850 668-7997. I hope to hear from you. You look and sound delightful
and I look forward to our meeting soon.Sincerely,
Mike
PS My last name is Tschirret (silent first T, pronounced “Surrette”), grandpa come over from France, way back.
i had a wonderful dream last night about my latest crush. handsome, young (much younger!), intelligent, well read brazilian composer/musician who held my hand and gave me a kiss in the back of a cab after a night of eating/drinking/dancing in sao paulo. 🙂
I am living with my love. He is the nicest man I have ever been with in my 54 years. He listens to me, he respects me, he is tender and kind. He is committed. He is consistent. He is not perfect but he has great interpersonal insight. Unbelievable and way fun:)
How did this relationship happen? I believe it happened because I got really clear about what I wanted in life and would only “lean” towards men to date that I thought would fit what I needed.
How did I get to this awareness? Truthfully – by being beaten down for so many years, I knew it was the only way I could survive.
For the rest of you, don’t take as long as me, OK?
Ok, so had date number two with the first guy, Abe. We had lunch on the Square in Marietta. Again, it was nice. He seems to like me. BUT he told me he saw his ex for the first time in a while this past weekend at his daughters soccer tournament and she’s gained a lot of weight–more than 50 pounds. So he says he called her later and expressed his “concerns about her health” (and she didn’t take it kindly)…Um, can’t decide how many points to deduct for that.
Well, you know how it is with ex’s….weird shit goes on between them and often they act in ways with each other that they would NEVER subject anyone else to. Maybe he is concerned about her health….still…if he hasn’t seen her in a while he could have called before this and asked how her health was. 😉
and kinda weird for him to tell you that march… who knows, it could be an explainable oddness. doesn’t hurt to pay attention to these things!
liza – 🙂
I would be a tad leery about his sudden concern about her health. I would want to know why the relationship failed ( his version). Maybe he is truly concerned ( is she the mother of his children?). Maybe he is being an ass and jabbing at her about her weight (not good). I’d deduct some points and give him a chance to explain.
Sounds like he may have issues with heavier women. If he didn’t, he wouldn’t have brought it up. If he made light of her response to his “concern”, more points deducted.
It also shows he lacks a sensitivity chip as well. Thyroid, stress, good loving, good cooking, she’s giving up on life, fertility treatments, the reasons for weight gain are countless….either way no thoughtful person brings that up to someone they haven’t seen in a long time. I wouldn’t even express concern to a close friend about weight gain even if they brought it up.
Everyone is aware of their weight, but not everyone wants to do something about it.
Big points lost for saying something negative about an ex/mother of his children on the second meet up.
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