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Hi Sisters. It is really happening! We are meeting face-to-face!
WHERE:
Jeannette’s home in Lafayette, Indiana – 60 miles NW of IndianapolisHOW FAR IS JEANNETTE FROM THE AIRPORT:
1 to 1.25 hours driveSHUTTLE FROM AIRPORT:
Yes! Probably Silver Lining or another sisterDATE:
You can come as early as Thursday evening,
September 29th, and leave Sunday, October 2nd. (For those working on Friday, it would be great to have you there on Friday evening and be with us on Saturday. I am thinking that is when the main group will be there – Friday evening and all day Saturday, maybe leave early Sunday???)FOOD: Silver Lining will plan the meals with B. Trayed. But Silver Lining will pick up all the food!!! and S.L. and B.T. will cook for you…or others can help!!!
ACTIVITIES: Well, that is in the works, but we will have a wonderful time. We have so much in common and I know we will share many laughs and tears together!
SELF CARE NOTE: I really hope you ladies with children and school activities to attend won’t just dismiss this retreat. You are important and are the pillar of your family. We need to take care of ourselves, in order to take care of others. Also, if money is the only issue holding you back, please contact me, friend request, and I will talk to NAP about any ideas she may have. She is my financial consultant…LOL.
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Please reply if you are able to make it, or are tentatively planning on coming. Just post right here, you awesome ladies! Any thoughts about food, activities, or car pooling are welcome! It is OUR retreat. Sisters that cannot make it, please post any thoughts or ideas you have too. We want you in the loop and are VERY sorry you cannot attend!!! We can skype though!Much love, B. Trayed
Oh man! I’m gonna contact my flight attendant friend and see what she can do. California is a long way away!
Lylo,
While I was suffering so much, I felt like I should meet with a specific counselor in Portland, Oregon…and I live near Detroit, Michigan!!! The counselor’s availability and other things were falling into place. (My h had stopped me from traveling out of town to get personal help two times, but this time I booked the flight and told him I was going. I encouraged him to support me, so it would not disturb my son. He did.)
I went, though I hate flying, and even rented a car on my own! It was so liberating and scary! On the way home I even decided to fly first class! and I am poor! It was awesome. The flight attendant handed me a towel with some prongs and I did not know what to do. I looked around at my rich peers and noticed they were wiping their hands and even face. I caught on and greatly enjoyed the hot cookie and milk later.
During the layover coming home I phoned my h. He did something very bad, and I told him I would not come home with him. When I arrived in Detroit, late at night, I had no one to pick me up and I was so lonely. I sat on a bench with my face in my hands (not literally, my face was still attached). LOL Anyway, I got in this scary man’s bus all alone…rape in Detroit??? and he took me to a Detroit car rental place. I got my second car of the trip and drove to my folk’s home.
My point, flying is only a few hours anywhere in the U.S. Lylo!!! Come, even if it is a little inconvenient. My trip was in ways, but TOTALLY worth it. Such self-love and self-care!!! I was never the same after that trip in some crucial areas of my life!!!
Much love, B
B–I loved what you write to Lylo. I am tentatively coming; trying to make it a definite. I haven’t flown alone in ages, but I think I’d be ok with that. Also worried what SA will say about the $, since I’m currently not working. (I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for 7 years, and just now mustering up the confidence, esp. after d-day to get out there again. I put in some school subbing applications in April, but haven’t done much since.) Anyway, he’s been on my case about how it would be nice if I contributed financially. (I guess it would be nice if he contributed to his vows, wouldn’t it?) So there’s that, and mustering up the courage to make sure that things will get taken care of at home with the kids, school, activities…SA can be a little “checked out” if you get my drift. Anyway, I’m writing this all down here so that I can slap myself in the face and just do it and figure it out. If I do come, I’m not the greatest cook, but I would love to contribute $$ towards the food/drinks and/or anything else needed.
love always, ZGZ. I can totally relate about the money/h issue. I have not worked all summer and my h is not too happy. He is not too happy about me spending money on our retreat/slumber party. I told him some gals go to out on vacations with their friends yearly! I never go anywhere with my buds. So try that one! And get your girlfriends or kid’s friend’s moms to help you out! love, b
I am planning on it!!! The only thing that would keep me from coming is the birth of my first grandchild. She is due Sept 23, but she is really big already so hopefully she will have it early! Fingers crossed!!
Yeehaw!!! Come one, come all!!!
(How’d you like that one, Nap?)
Zgirl- have you slapped yourself in the face yet?? If not, I’ll be happy to do it for you!!! You ARE coming! You are flying out Thursday afternoon/evening and I am picking you up at the Indy airport and you are spending the night with me!! Then, you and I will get these ladies picked up at the port on Friday and getting our asses up to Lafayette. Somewhere in there, you are meeting my son, Sam! (Who you adore and whom you are facebook friends with!!) If we have time on Friday waiting for flights, you are helping me finish up the food prep and I will teach you how to cook! LOL!!!
What else do you want to know?! Oh yes, I will buy your plane ticket and you can tell your SA to stick it up his tight ass ass. (Hmmm…. Interesting)
If you bail on this with your usual one million excuses (re-read your post) then I will either fly out to get you myself or I will cut you off from all future cards, gifts, etc) (Yes, even magnets!!!!!) I know how much you look forward to those!!! Tell your family you are coming to see ME. If they don’t like it, please give them my number.You have 5 weeks. START PACKING.
PS Ladies,
Thanks to JoAnn and SOS, Zumba girl is not only my very best BFF, she is my soul sister for life and I thank God for her (and all of you) every single day!! 🙂hi ladies yes i am coming please anything i can do let me know. i will be driving in from wv if i can pick up anyone along the way glad to do it. let me know. food, money, anything at all. look so forward to see everyone.
much love kattI will bring cheese!
sl ~ flights from green bay are $201 on Thursday or Friday. What time would be best to catch a ride with you? there is morning, after noon and evening flights both days. I can also rent a car for the weekend as the flight is so cheap.
ps should I fly in to Indianapolis?I am going to book it soon ~ that baby better be early!!
Thinking the same thing as hadj608: is there a best time of day for arrivals/departures, so there could be one “shuttle” trip?
Hi all,
I hope Jeannette is mentally prepared for this….sounds like a hootinannie to me or a hoosiernannie! If my divorce doesnt kill me first I hope to come. Katt, I’ll bring the cigars and my makeup! Well smoke the cigars outside of course. I need to figure out some things and I hope to make it- will be so nice to meet everyone.
love, NapI would say fly in on Friday, morning to mid Day? Keep each other posted on times so we can somewhat coordinate….
But I can make more than one trip to airport!! Just get here!!Thurs evening would work to and I could make a trip up to J’s!
hadj I missed your post. I am thrilled you are planning to come!!!
NAP, this would not be the same without you. YOU HAVE NO CHOICE!!! YOU NEED TO GET SUPPORT AT THE HARDEST TIME OF YOUR LIFE!!! I am so sorry the divorce is so painful. It hurts, I am sure. Hang in there! We all love you and want to see you face to face. We can cry with you and hug you up! Much love, B. Trayed
Just want to put me in as a maybe, very tentative.
The week before is my sisters wedding which i already am taking two days off for. So i cannot take more time off for the following week (not yet anyway, still the newbie with no days of or anything yet). So i would have to fly out friday night after work. I saw one flight that would get me there at midnight, and then be back to CT on sunday evening. So it would give me only about 1.5 days in Indianoplis with about 12 hours of flight/travel time at either end. So I am still giving it some thought, but may be too tough to squeeze in this time.
Love,
FloraThanks for considering it Flora.
(I am dying to know how your job is going!)
If you arrive at midnight, someone will be there for you…NO PROBLEM in that area. We want you there, but understand your situation! xo Flora
Flora, it would be so great to meet you. But if this is too much of a tight squeeze, hopefully it can be said that this is the first of many slumber parties. 🙂
Love, ZGHi b-trayed. My new job is really really great.
The whole thing is similar to relationship with SA. Worried and dreaded leaving the old, but now that it is done…i don’t think i will ever regret it. Its probably comparable to what its like to be in a bad relationship for several years, and then all of a suddent walk into a new relationship that is effortless and the right fit. Thats my new job. I am sure there will be times my job will stink, but it will not be everyday like my old job, and so far has not happened yet.
Thanks for asking b-trayed.
But i will for sure beable to make the next one with all of my sick days and vacation days. This one will be a tight fit.
FloraI’m sorry guys. I can’t. I want to, but I can’t. I just asked my husband after I implored him to stop the cyber sex, five years ago, why he started up again? (he said that it was about two months later) and I remember asking him a few times
I asked him WHY? (which I’ve probably asked about a 100 times. And he said:He said that he thought that too much had already been lost.
This was FIVE years ago– I know, I know… this is mindfuck, isn’t it? addict speak? it HAS to be. I WAS RIGHT FUCKING HERE!!! WE WERE PARTNERS GOD DAMN IT!!!!!!!!!
That was when I came down and began to write the “I can’t…” (see above)
I wrote the beginning and that’s when I stopped writing, (about an hour ago or so)— God help me, I just started screaming and when I say screaming (I’m a soprano) I mean SCREAMING and then I went into the kitchen where my soon to be ex-husband was still adding things— and SCREAMED for him to GET OUT!!!
He just looks at me (with his usual expression of disdain) and says:
I’m trying to do an accounting of our portfolio. (that he just liquidated 43k from to pay off the credit card debt).
That only made me scream more…
wait— this is supposed to be about the trip. Let me continue in a new post.
Hi all!!
Flo and Lex – I understand your dilemma’s. Lexie, you have soooo much going on right now, but dang it – I wish you would come!
I was thinking, if you guys can’t make it this time- maybe the next one could be in your area’s and we could travel your way! (Zumba, don’t get any bright idea’s, this doesn’t pertain to or include YOU. You’re coming! End of conversation!)
Flora- maybe you could try ONE more thing! Could you ask your employer if you could work (4) ten hour days that week and then take Friday off?? Just a thought!!
Ladies,
I have some yummy stuff planned for the menu but if anyone has any requests- please shout ’em out! We will need to discuss alcohol as well and what we need to have on hand! For those who don’t drink…… Um, there’s a first time for everything!!?? Ha! I will have plenty of other choices available as well!
What else? We all need to think about bedding and so forth. I will talk to Jeanette and see what she has. Perhaps those of us who are driving can throw some extra sheets and blankets in to cover the rest!!
We need music, we need playing cards, we need Kleenex, we need YOU!!
Another fun idea – everyone be sure to bring LOTS of pictures! Your kids, your animals, your homes, your siblings, your vacations, whatever you
Wanna share!! And by all means, bring your camera’s!!! Okkk…. If you insist on pics of your SA- bring ones that you don’t mind being destroyed! (I’m not kidding) I’m workin on an idea!!! 🙂Love you all!!
Hey new ladies, we haven’t heard much from you!!! Whose in??!
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