Daisy, I’m glad that you liked your doctor and have a little something to help you through.
I think whenever they violate a different boundary, it adds a new dimension to the pain. So screwing someone at work feels different than screwing a neighbor or a family member because there is a different boundary violation in addition to “just” the cheating. And I think the more personal the boundary, the more it hurts? So, if they talk intimately with the whore like they do with you, or if they go see the whore while you are in the hospital having a baby- those things are personal and supposedly something special between the two of you and they have violated it, so it is especially painful?
Does that make sense?