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Oh Trish.. The thought of sweet you puking in the therapist’s bathroom.. My heart hurts for you. But I know you’re going to be ok. And your wonderful kids will be with you all the way. And so will we, your sisters. xoxo
Trish, like the other Sisters, there are no words to express my sorrow and outrage. Thank God you have the beach and plan B. I hope you can feel all of us gathered around you, comforting you and sustaining you. I hope you are sleeping.
Much love and anger for your pain,
DaisyTrish,
I am just sick for you. I can’t even imagine what that was like to sit there and listen to that. Then wait as he failed another poly. And then try to drag the truth out of him yet again. It sounds so agonizing, so devastating, so humiliating. Clearly it was traumatizing. Please know we are thinking of you and sending you healing thoughts while you escape to the beach. Words cannot express my sympathy for what you are going through right now. Take care.Trish, my heart is breaking for you as I read this. It is just so deveststing to feel your pain of the 32 years of lies. I am so sorry you are hurting and please know that I am praying for your comfort and healing this week. Please God let Trish delight in and respect the beautiful, strong and loving woman she is!
I am stunned and so, so sorry. I too did not expect this. Holding you in my heart and sending all my best energy.
With love ~ JoAnn
Dear Trish, I can’t come up with appropriate words either, other than I am sending you thoughts and prayers for healing and strength. Look for whatever you can to sustain you right now, and know that we are here with you.
I’m sorry, Trish. What a coward to have dragged things along like this. It doesn’t seem like 1 week on the beach will be enough – I think it’s time to call the realtor and buy the cottage.
Rest and gather your strength.
With love, AliCried myself to sleep last night thinking of you, Trish. I pray you find at least a few moment’s peace today. Love you Sister, Liza
Trish, I’m so sorry. The truth would be devastating no matter how it was delivered, but the way you received it was stunningly abusive. If, after seeing Minwalla and months of therapy and help from his therapist and full knowledge that a poly was going to follow this well planned disclosure…….he can STILL do that to you…..FUCK THAT! I’m so enraged and angry and sad for you and with you.
So true, Courtney. It was all so ‘stunningly abusive’. And now knowing what actually transpired, that whole last minute scheduling bullshit with the polygraph bumps it up to a whole new level of brutality.
Dear Trish, I am so disgusted in your SA. I am so sorry for you that you, being such a caring person should have to endure this pain. I am wondering whether it is a good idea for you to be on your own at the beach? I really would not have been able to handle this. Trish he does not deserve you or your children. He will never change. I am sending you huge hugs and love from South Africa. He just does not deserve his family any longer, let him go Trish. Love you lots xxx
trish,
i am so so sorry. it makes me sick. i wish i didn’t, but i did expect this. i wish i was surprised. i’m sorry that he put you through this. like everyone else here, there is one thing i can’t believe. even when he KNEW the truth would come out, he couldn’t come out with it until he HAD to. stupid fucker. i don’t even hate him because that would be too much emotion wasted on him, the sorry excuse for a human being he is.
you were strong. and you are strong. you don’t deserve this. i’m glad you have those beautiful kids and i’m glad they have you.
holding you in my heart, with much love.
lisa
How are you doing Trish? I am so worried about you. I can only imagine what must be going through your mind. You must have so much mixed emotions, heartache, anger. Dont give up on YOU dear Trish. You deserve much better than this. Thinking of you dear xxx
Trish,
I am so sorry. This is devastating. My heart is aching for what you are going through. You are in my thoughts and prayers and I hope that being at your beloved beach will enable you to grieve & rest a little.Love,
DeborahI am so sorry Trish but honestly I pretty much knew it was going to be really really bad. Again I am so sorry. That is why I never wanted to know any more than I already knew about pornpig. Because what I already know makes me sick to my stomach. I know if I knew the full extent of what he really has done I would be puking my guts out just like you and I just couldn’t take it. I have been through enough I don’t need any more torture. Once more, so, so, sorry you have been kicked in the gut like this. I hope you can get through this somehow. Get away how ever you can to sort out your mind. Use the meds for awhile if you need to. I did and there is no shame in that, that is what they are there for. Just go easy on yourself. You will get through this.
Oh Trish, my heart aches for you. I expected to hear that he had a few brief affairs or encounters or something but not 32 yrs worth. I’m stunned.
It just goes to show that we never really KNOW how bad it is until they are forced to give it up thru confession, disclosure or polygraphs and yet, it still isn’t everything.
My new motto is “It truly is as bad as it seems.”
I’m so sorry you gave and gave and stood by him only for him to kick you in the teeth some more. You have been a loyal, good, amazing wife. He truly is the loser here and never deserved your goodness.
I’m sorry for your pain, dear sister.
Thinking of you today Trish and as you can see we all love and care about you. Youre a treasure, a loving great mom, a friend, a great nurse, and a caring soul. That’s all that matters. I’m sorry you are suffering and know we are all thinking of you Trish.
After two days, I still can’t think of anything to say but I love you, we all love you, Trish. You are beautiful, amazing woman.
Trish, you are amazing. You have kept your compassion and dignity throughout this and went the extra mile in getting him to Minwalla. This reared it’s ugly head when you had so many important family events going on with your kids, and you were there for all of them. You even forgave him and stayed with him after your first discovery so long ago. You have been true to yourself and your values, and you have been failed miserably. Thinking of you this morning and wishing you peace and healing moments.
Good morning Trish. We are with you today, remember that every time you feel alone or need strength.
Dear Trish,
Just read the full thread here. What a roller coaster madness. WE all fell your pain, through empathy and sympathy, through our own pain and experiences, through the fear of what may be coming, through the pain inflicted on womankind. We are here with you. We’ll nurse you if this is what you need, and encourage you, and cry with you. In the end, you stand alone among the shadows and will need all the time it takes to heal this awful old wound.
I keep thinking about people who get a diagnosis of malignant cancer. I think this is just what you got. A recent diagnosis of a malignant cancer that has been there, growing and metastasising for a long time, giving you pain and symptoms since a long time ago.
This is why I think a disclosure is a good thing – it’s a diagnosis that gives the disease its proper name, its true state, and its prognosis. I never got one and never will because it seems that my ex h is not willing to admit the full account, but I do think it is necessary and one’s right to know. At the same time it might just be helpful to remember that you’ve been feeling it and living with it and somehow managing for the past 32 years. It won’t get any worse. My thoughts are with you my dear and I share in the pain and your distress. Sleep well.
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