Thank you, Diane and Pam.
Pam, even just 10 days after discovery I was already too soft on him. Guess it was shock or denial or who knows what. Also at that time, I didn’t know there were more charming little discoveries to be made that kept re-traumatizing me over and over again. But I really regret that too. It really stalled the healing process for me, and the recovery process for him. I gotta big honking case of hindsight right now.
Diane, a little while ago you mentioned your post on JoAnn’s other site, and I had completely forgotten that even before finding this site, I had saved the link to your post, ‘Drowning in the shallow end of recovery,’ because it had made such an impression on me. Just found it today in my saved drafts, and am going to read it again. Thank you so much.