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Hi everyone-Today is our 2nd anniversary. I received a dozen yellow roses at my doorstep. They are beautiful, but not pretty enough to erase all the pain and trauma Steve put me through these past 3 yrs.
He is also playing mind games with me in an attempt to get me to become engaged in his usual entanglement of “War of the Roses.” Sorry, not playin that game anymore. I did call and thank him for the roses, and quickly told him I had to leave and pick up my granddaughter from school. A very quick and limited conversation.
I’m doin just fine!! The more games he plays, the more I really resent him. I guess I am finally getting it-thanks to Joann and my Sister’s.
Just have to pat myself on the back. I feel good about where I am at, and am not having any 2nd thoughts whatsoever.
I am only calling him if I need to talk about finances or mail he is receiving at his house. The mail was finally starting to be forwarded today.Sharron,
I find it so disheartening that these SA’s seem to only “get it” once we have moved on….they push and push, until we are done – and then they grovel.
I hope you are enjoying the yellow roses in your quiet serene condo. I wish I had more financial advice for you – sounds like you should get a second opinion from a divorce attorney or financial advisor.
Deb
Thanks Deb-I don’t even think Steve gets it after I have moved out. Still not doing the things he is supposed to be doing for recovery, and still trying to play mind games. I don’t think the really EVER get it.
My attorney does specialize in divorce, so will be anxious to see what she comes up with next Thursday.Bonnie, when you read this post think back to what I said about what happens when the fog lifts? Sharron was as emeshed as you are and look at her now! 😉 Karen xx
I think you were very gracious to call and thank him. You are a true lady til the end. I think I might have called but “thank you ” would not have been what I said! You have proven, like JoAnn, that one can move in a good direction and maintain their dignity. Congrats on that… No easy feat
BevThank you NAP,Diane, Bev and Kmv.
I really don’t know for sure what caused the turn around for me. I think the final blow was objectifying his sister 3X’s when she was over for dinner. It was just the total wake up call. I thought, “My God, what am I doing here.” Also the fact I made a contract with him 6 mo. that very clearly stated if he didn’t shape by my birthday up I was shipping out. I think the two of them were big factors.
There is one thing about me-it takes me a long time to get my belly full, but once I do, and my mind is made up, there is no going back.
I think that may be part of the reason I am not having any ups and downs- no saddness-only relief.
I am actually happy for the first time in 3 yrs.
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