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Teri, seriously …. I will buy your tickets. I know you will pay me back. Plan your Christmas and and call me and I will help.
The worst he can do is bitch about it.
What the fuck is wrong with these attys??!!!!
I say buy the tickets.
Trust me, judges know how airlines work (getting the better ticket price in advance)…….
Your atty surely could argue this point for you.
Thanks, Bev. But I don’t feel like I can take you up on your offer, and here is why…
This makes me so angry bc if this had been decided when I had brought it up, tickets would have been about $1000 total. But now they are over $1k a piece.
And I have at least 2 more trips I am likely to take in January for Bat’s education. Plus a retainer for the educational specialist. Plus paying the accountant and the attorneys. Plus taxes are all due. And I don’t want to put myself in a bad position where I cannot fight for Bat’s needs educationally. I also know that if I push, he will push back even harder. Last time we went to court, Bat owed 20 hrs. of make up visitation and we walked out of the court house with it increased t oover 140 hours. That’s what going to MIT cost him.
I can’t take my holiday knowing that Bat will have to shoulder the cost of it. It hurts and it’s hard, but I cannot go in good conscience knowing that it will at Bat’s expense.
Wow. Bat is 16? In two more years you won’t have to go through this hell anymore. I can imagine how trapped you feel. At least there is an end in sight. You know dr e will do anything he can to make your life miserable for the next 2 years. Thats all he has! I’m so sorry you are dealing with all this crap. It’s just not right.
He’s 15 and a half, tmp. That’s what keeps me going. If I’d left him in public school, he’d be a junior right now. As it is, he is already doing college classes and needs a 4 year college next year. So that’s what this is really about. Bat is ready to move on with his education. Dad thinks bc he got caught going to orgies, he gets to hold him here. But worst case scenario- well, how do you tell a kid he can’t take math for 2 years in high school? We HAVE to move. I don’t see how he can keep us here.
Teri, I understand that anything you do ends up hurting Bat ( with doc e).
BUT… If you change your mind about the Xmas tickets then call me and I will send you a money order overnight.
You can pay me back whenever. I have a stash 🙂
In fact, my stash is for my trip to Greece with Daisy so it will be awhile before I actually need it !! I have another stash for emergencies that I never touch 🙂
Sometimes it just helps to know that it’s there if you decide you want/ need it…..
Thanks, Bev. I don’t know how to say without it sounding corny. But here I have people like you who I have never met face-to-face willing to do more for me than the man I married or his relatives that I spent 21 years trying to make happy…
I just don’t even have words to express my gratitude.Well, if you can somehow manage to get it so you and Bat can move away…..that will be worth 10,000 xmases(sp?) Teri!
Thanks, Karen. Keep your fingers crossed that we can find an educational expert that “gets” Bat. So far the “experts” don’t get him- they just want to look at what’s “wrong” with him and they know something is “wrong” with him but can’t seem to figure out what that is- but the math and physics profs do- they don’t see anything “wrong” with him. They think he’s great. Because when he is doing math and physics, he comes alive. And when idiot evaluators are making him fill out forms for 2 hours, he is bored to tears.
Sometimes I feel like the world is just nuts.
The people who have contributed the most to the world saw what others didn’t see. They weren’t ordinary learners, they found most ‘traditional’ learning boring however excelled in their area of interest and just boomed from there. Think Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Albert Einstein, etc never follow traditional education they followed what they could see and others could not. These are the true geniuses of the world. This is how I see Bat with his math and physics.
Thanks, NAP.
I think people see a kid and don’t think he could possibly know all that much. But the profs get it. It’s funny to watch him ask a question during a modern physics lecture and see the prof do a double take. “How do you know about that?” they will ask him (like it’s not on the Internet?).
Just like with an SA, you really cannot possibly know what is going on inside someone else’s head. We assume too much and too often that we can judge on appearances and our own biases.
I agree Teri. If each child was looked at with fresh eyes we would have even more contributor to the world. It would be great if any of the MIT professors could write a letter on Bats behalf? On how they see Bat for who he is.
I asked his instructor to write an evaluation before we left Boston, which he did. Bat’s current Physics instructor “gets” him, too. Bat often spends half an hour after class discussing physics and math far beyond the scope of the class with him. He’s been really great.
I get a kick out of seeing people write me off as just another pushy parent, and then they talk to Bat, and you see that light bulb moment when they get it. They just get a big smile and twinkle and then they start engaging him. It’s magical- just tickles me to see how that interaction transforms him and them.
So many students memorize the material and take the test and if they memorize well then they get a good grade. Then they never really think anymore about the material they were tested on. However the ‘thinkers’ think about the material and creatively start applying it to what they know and invision and a true professor LOVES students like that. The real thinkers and creators of new thoughts. That is a very special gift to have and not many people have it.
Bat doesn’t have a clue how to just get something done for a class. He told me he doesn’t want to do things the expected way, he wants it to be “spectacular.”
His therapist was talking to him about getting things done more quickly. She said “Why take 100 steps when you can take 2?” and he said,”Even if that 100 steps takes you past the Eiffel Tower?” She didn’t really have a response- just a smile.
Wow!!! His response to that question is ‘spectacular’….love
it and he knows it’s true.Michealangelo could have painted a lot quicker than he did however his work is considered and is a ‘Masterpiece’ it’s ‘spectacular’.
What a neat kid Bat is Teri I’d love to meet him someday.
Thanks, NAP. It would be fun to meet your daughters as well. We have some really amazing families here, don’t we?
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