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I remember in high school freshman year I had a teacher with a young son who had gotten divorced and this was when divorce wasn’t as common. She was really really bitter and I remember thinking how can she be so bitter for so long (she was really short with us all the time). And on almost a daily basis shed say to us “Don’t expect anything and you’ll never be disappointed”. With our limited life experience we didn’t really get it other than we were tired of hearing it. Now, unfortunately, I totally understand where this lady was coming from.
Back before texting when I was home with a new baby and having a hard time getting out of the house, I asked if he would call me sometimes like during lunch or when he was driving between offices. He hardly ever did. When I found out about his first “emotional affair”, his cell phone records showed long daily calls to her.
Towards the end he would text me or respond to my texts- usually about kids or reminding him about something. But he wouldn’t talk to me when he was here. Mister Monosyllabic. He used the texts to show how we had such great communication before so we should be great coparents now. He started seeing attorneys about divorce years ago, so I am wondering now in addition to his printing out my emails (which had nothing in them, but I think he was just trying to get anything he could go back and later try to smear me with) if he was setting up other things for the divorce. About 2 years before dday, he gave in on some things involving helping with the kids that he had been adamant about not doing before and I had begged and begged. Now he is parading those around like he is father of the year.
LOL! I was looking for an appraisal I had done of his $20K baseball cards because he is now accusing me of “prolifigate” spending in divorce court. I found a bag of love letters I wrote to him during our 6 month court ship. (None from him.) Gag & Vomit. I barely got through them. I will be able to attach a few to my Anullment Petition. I am with Bev and the rest – the longer you research and live with SA the more you realize that they are Con Men through and through for lots of reasons/personality disorders you had nothing to do with. A Con Man can’t survive on a bad reputation….so that’s their only motivation to protect their fake false self and to create new ones. I could spot the con a mile away now, but there are so few men who are con-free….that’s the depressing part for us non-Lesbians! Anger and bitterness is the fuel you need to get yourself out of the trauma so you can heal. I bet NAP’s Teacher has finally healed. It’s hard to heal when the trauma is ongoing. We need a funeral calendar on SOS so we can all come and celebrate First Wives Club style when these abusers finally die or get arrested for child porn! 🙂
Just a follow up on the teacher. One of our classmates mother had passed away from cancer and the teacher married her father when we were juniors. The girl said she was “awful” to live with however the teacher showed some glimpses of happiness after she remarried actually seemed much happier than she was.
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