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So, he insists he never vists match.com.
Here’s his profile.
About him & Who he’s looking for
I am a hopeless romantic. I am a gentleman from the old school. I still hold doors and chairs for ladies. I love great conversations and I enjoy stories. Juggling is one of my hobbies. It is a metaphor for life. It is all about timing and relationships with others. I love to teach others how to juggle. I haven’t performed in years but I might make an exception for a special person. I am originally from the West Coast which is why I talk funny. I have a very giving nature. I have been described as a risk taker. If you risk nothing you gain nothing. I am a passionate fellow. You will see this in my craft and in my relationships. I am a very tactile person. I love walks in the park, however I insist on holding hands. I love to give and occasionally receive back rubs.
I tried to be a stoic once but my passions keep getting in the way. I refuse to accept a right-handed dominated world. I follow the beat of a different drummer. I don’t take myself seriously but I do take relationships seriously.
I am a very adventuresome eater. The hotter the better.So, what do you do with that information?
Buy a gun???!!?? Ugh!!!
You poor baby!! I hate him!!!!!
It’s a trigger too!!! Ugh! Looks just like ONE of my exSAH’s many profiles… Except take out the whole juggling act and insert: “Hung like a horse”.Really, Dude? Good riddance!!!!!
What a farce of a man he is, he’s a DINK! It’s sick how they see themselves as such nice people, have such a high opinion of themselves, when they really are liars, cheaters and disgusting! I’m so sorry, honey. Do you want to confront him with what you’ve found?
Love, LindyI printed it and forwarded an email link to our CSAT counselor
I told him I’d found it, too.
Of course, the rub is, I had to get a profile and wait a while there before he viewed me, just to prove he was actually on there. I saw match.com on his droid several times over the last 6 weeks. So I’m there, too. sigh
Oh I would play with this one for sure……..I would make an acct, describe something that would catch his eye…and agree to meet….then let him get there first and show up and watch as he squirms out of that one…..with printed match.com emails of course to let him know it was you all along……bring some popcorn!
I don’t take myself seriously but I do take myself seriously.
Excuse me guy… Was that a typo and you meant it in reverse?
What did he have to say for himself when you confronted him?
I’m so sorry Lynn 🙁 As much as you may have expected to find what you did, I know it had to hurt like a bitch to have to read that.
Lynn, I found one of those too. He wanted someone ‘smart and funny who wanted a commitment.’ He had a photo of himself holding our kitty. Finding this was one of the most painful things in this whole mess. Just wanted you to know you’re not alone in this horror. Big hugs to you, and I am so so sorry. xoxo
Ugh, I feel absolutely nauseous. I am so very, very sorry. I know how much that hurts. Sending lots of love your way!!
xoxoxoLynng,
WWWHHHAATTTT????????
This is so painful. So sorry.
Ok, so excuse my lack of knowledge here. But I must ask.
There have been several of you that have found your husbands profile on these kinds of sites. I am so clueless as to how to even begin to do this.
Can someone tell me what and how you do this?So sorry Lynng.
BARF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Cindy,
I used a key logger on computer and received his every key stroke. I learned more than I EVER wanted to know! Ugh! But so glad I did it now!!!
My SA’s code name was Lucky Charms…What a fucking idiot!!
I just keep rereading this is awe. The balls on these guys are amazing. Funny… earlier I said he typo’d and got it backward, and I typo’d when I wrote it.
“I still hold doors and chairs for ladies.”
Plural. Ladies.
“I love great conversations and I enjoy stories. “
Making up stories like this profile.
“Juggling is one of my hobbies. It is a metaphor for life. “
Juggling woman; which is a metaphor for HIS life.
“I have been described as a risk taker. If you risk nothing you gain nothing.”
Risk taking with his marriage.
“I refuse to accept a right-handed dominated world. I follow the beat of a different drummer.”
Ok, he got that part totally right.
“I don’t take myself seriously but I do take relationships seriously.”
Should say “I take myself seriously but I don’t take my relationships seriously.”
Ugggghhh!!!!! How are you doing? That has to be a lot to read and learn. Do you feel like this is changing your perspective any?
And do these guys use their real names? I found ads wirh my ex b/f. He used his real name. What an IDIOT!
Have any of you checked adultfriendfinder.com?
My exSAH was on friend frinder, something else, and his main source was BBP.com
That’s big beautiful people meet .comNice. I spent years worry about my looks, weight, appearance, etc. and in the end, turns out he’s been banging Heffers of 300 pounds Plus…..
Yep, the bigger the boobs and bigger the woman… The better! And you know what?? That’s FINE!! Really. Big people need lovers too! I’m not prejudice toward big people. I have a few pounds to lose myself!
My issue is – Marry one, fucker!!! Don’t use ME as your cover!! The “acceptable” one that everybody loves and that you can take home to Mama…. All the while screwing anything and everything over 300 that you can get your hands on!! Ugh!!! Dirty little (rather, BIG) secret!!!!
Sorry, kinda crude today! I am packing up my belongings to move and it is making me grouchy in some ways!!!
Oh silver, how weird that is.. My h’s names on his secretfriends acct were Lucky Guy and Happy Go Lucky. What is with these guys.. are they pervert leprechauns or what?
Did you all know that the highest selling “specialty” porn is plus side porn. No lie its hugely popular. (no pun intended)
Lynn,
So sorry for this discovery however when we find these awful things, it’s another confirmation of who they really are. You didn’t marry who you thought you did. Neither did I and many on the site. The frog won’t turn into the prince. Most stay frogs. I don’t want to be with a frog. I’d rather be alone and healthy. Dr Phil has a saying: ‘it’s better to be alone and heathy than sick with somebody else’. It’s so true.OMG! How did I miss this one?
Oh Lynn Honey, I am so, so, so sorry. When did he post this? I counted from 21-23 times he said *I*, but I got tired of recounting all of them. Its all about HIMHIMHIMHIMHIMHIM!!!!!!!!!! Notice how he doesn’t say what he’s looking for in a woman? That’s cause it doesn’t fucking matter. As long as she reveres and bows down to the almighty cock, she’s IN. (or is it out?) I’ve read a LOT of men’s profiles. This is one of the more articulate ones, but I can also tell that he is a predator, because of certain key lines. I was going to dissect his post, but then I realized that every friggin’ line is coming from the sly (he thinks) hand of an internet sexual predator. Of course, a less experienced woman, might actually believe his con. I would have four years ago. I would’ve thought, oh, how romantic, how passionate… mmmmm… how…
BLECH!!!!!!!!!!
steep learning curve. 🙁
But, we’re getting there!
He is so disgusting and sick and everything I hear outta his slimy mouth makes me wanna slap him from here to kingdom come.
I am so sorry that you had to see this, but I think its also a great example of why I’ve come up with the conclusion that there is no such thing as “full disclosure”. I can assure you, that this is just the tip of an iceberg made out of lube, honey… Oh, to see him try to worm his way outta this one.
He’ll say… “Oh that? (chuckl) Oh, I was just bored and wanted to see if anyone would respond and no one did, hun… NOTHING HAPPENED…(now, he’s really mad) and WHY ARE YOU GOING THROUGH MY STUFF???????? ***I*** DON’T LOOK AT YOUR STUFF!!!!!!!”
no, of course, not; he has no reason to.
(((((((((hugs)))))))))
Yes, It was a physical pain, to see that one. I literally got sick. Oh well. I had suspected for a long time. He did say he’d not contacted anyone, and I made him pull it up in front of me today. No emails, no looks, no matches, nothing. I would cry for him if he hadn’t asked for it. He said he only reactivated his 3 year old acct because I had accused him of going on Match.com and said I would know and he came on to find me.
I asked him if he had been on looking for me a number of times since. He denied ever going on the site, every single time. I even got a text of him denying it WHILE I WAS READING HIS PROFILE!!!! Then, when he got home, I showed him my copy of it. Just a shrug, then, Well, I was panicked.
He wanted to see mine, to see that I’d delete mine too. (Gives a whole new meaing to you show me yours, I’ll show you mine). He was so stunned I had 234 looks, 9 emails, and 47 matches. My profile line had 3 sentences. I had one (old, old, old, photo.) He was really hurt I got so much more attention (I am NOT a hot babe, just guys are apparently a LOT less specific about what they want). I thought, well, maybe this will make him think about what he’s losing. And what he could get.
But, that’s not really important right now. I got the name of a cut-throat attny. And an excellent PI (but TOOO expensive) Going there this week to find out what my position is, legally.
I watched him delete his profile today. I deleted mine, too. We’ll see where this goes. I’m braindead. Second disclosure
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