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My daughters bball team won sectionals and they are going to state. The play tomorrow at 1:30 and if they win on saturday. This is such a blast, everybody is in a great mood. I had mom’s here all week, I made 27 personalized pillows and sweat towels, tshirts etc. And put together an awesome goody bag for the girls.
So at an all-school send off assembly I am handing out their bags as their names were announced. So fun! band playing etc.
asshole was supposed to be helping -there were 25 bags not in order, well where the hell was he? Busy flirting with a women. a cute red head that I told him last week to stay away from. I look up and all I see is him getting jiggy with it. you know what I mean, when you can tell he is getting juiced up.
And why did he leave me scrambling and go by her?….He didn’t want to steal any attention away from me. yep.I had such a fit when we got home. It was ugly, and he thinks I am unreasonable. I feel like the whole trip has been ruined.
I have to ride for 3 hours in the car with him. Gosh he ruins everything. I have to get my head out of his ass. grrrrr.He only cares what you are feeling when to do so won’t interfere with his addiction/compulsions. If your feelings do interfere, he just doesn’t care about them. You and your feelings are not and never will be the top priority. It’s an impossibility for him. He will protect his right to fuck, flirt, chat, view porn, etc. against all else. Only when those are not on his “to do” list, will you even be in the room.
I feel like a real shit saying this. But I just think that’s the way it is here. And you are worth so much more than this treatment. It’s a real heartbreaker.
So all IMO, and I hope you don’t hate me.
Please, let me be all wrong,
Diane, with love.Dear Heidi,
You know I agree with Diane so no point saying that. What I am worried about is you are going to end up as one of those divorced people who are legally divorced BUT remain emotionally married. This is the same man who promises you the moon right? He cann’t be bothered to be faithful while you are married…he is going to have a field day once u are divorced. 🙁 Heidi, I know EXACTLY what I would do to sort that creep out. Since he INSISTS on disrepecting you in front of your own children…I would NOT allow him to be present. It isn’t good for your kids (especially your daughters) to constantly watch him acting like he does. I would divorce him and then I would give that creep exactly what he deserves. He would NOT be welcome at family events where I was going to be present. From what I can tell…your children favor you? I would use that fact to my advantage and ban him from being involved if you are present. Mean, unreasonable you say??? I think NOT. He is mean and unreasonable to be acting out with you right there and with your children looking on. If you don’t make some kind of stand (besides fights behind closed doors) he is going to use your divorce to do what he always wanted to do …all the while reaping the benefits of being part of a family. He clearly thinks he can do whatever he wants in any venue. I would say, in order, to not have every occasion ruined you need to put a boundary around him.
I’m sorry, Heidi but I don’t know how u haven’t murdered him yet. Karen xxPS this is a PERFECT example of how broken up they REALLY are about their marriages breaking up. What an ASSHOLE.
It’s rude. It is disrespectful to you. and he knows it. Plus he was probably getting back at you. All the effort you put in making those bags for the team, was time not paying attention to HIM. they need attention every waking second. doing stuff for your kids, while they know you need to do that, doesn’t give them enough comfort. it should be all about them, all the time. and if it isn’t, they will find someone who will pay attention to them, ESPECIALLY the person you asked them not to talk to. it’s payback. he’s an infant.
Hi Heidi…Congrats.
I was in CC and track in high school…and I went to states 7 or 8 times. I loved it. It was truely some of the best times of my life. So have fun with your daughter…and why can’t your h drive in his own car??Flora
Wow Heidi! First congrats to your daughters team and to you for being such an awesome mom!
Sorry that your husband put a damper on your day. Sadly Dianes words ring true…not just for you but for all of us.
How many of us have fantasized about March’s suggestion? Perfect!Heidi: So sorry to be late in responding to this. CONGRATS on going to State Finals–so amazing!!! Don’t let anyone or anything ruin this amazing time. FUCKERS. (Thank you, SL, for my new and improved vocabulary.) Your daughter will remember this for the rest of her life. She’s SO lucky to have you to make it extra-special.
Love and luck to you!!!
Julieps., March: love it!!
Hi Heidi,
That’s wonderful news about States! Did she play today, too?
Re: your SAH – you will have lots to talk about at Dr. Minwalla’s partner intensive. I think that you might want to write up some boundaries – with flirting with other women around you or the kids (or elsewhere for that matter) gets him kicked out of the house for xxx amount of time. These guys really don’t understand boundaries for themselves and need it spelled out. A friend of mine (partner of a SA) even had her husband change his email and phone number – which seemed extreme to me, but it does make sense. (my SAH gets tons of those cyber ads from his past “stuff”.
At any rate – try not to think about your idiot SAH (aren’t they all idiots?) while you have fun at States, and then LA (wasn’t it via FL?). Have a great time and update us on your time at the intensive. Wish I was there with you! (please tell Dr. Minwalla that he needs to do a Part II for partners of SAs) – and we can meet up there.
Deb
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