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I wish I could get hold if your husband and head butt him Courtney. So…..if you have some kind of disorder it makes him NOT a sex addict. He wins the prize of fuck wit of the day.
God my language is foul todayLove to hear you swear Catherine – is fuck wit a new one? Daisy I can’t believe how young she is – makes me want to look at my own album – why are we still up?
Dear Coutney,
Your husband has NO idea what a borderline actually is. A borderline has an unreasonable fear of abandonment. Sounds like you have an unreasonable fear of contact. Don’t listen to his psycho babble. He is completely nuts.
“fuck wit”- new favorite term of endearment. 😉
i’ve developed so much proficiency with swear words since i’ve come to SOS. you women have schooled me in the joys of saying fuck and shit and combinations of them in ways i never imagined could feel so good.Guys! Love the song and the swearing and the advice, I going to pull up this thread and your words every gimme it states seeping back in. I was ” abandoned” during my whole marriage, been there, done that. I knew dr. E would have the market on this , Teri, so many similarities. March, he hasn’t called me bipolar or a drug addict or alcoholic yet,the other things I’ve heard:) so wonderful to know this is play book. I just took a deep breath, it’s a new day.
Courtney, he’s batshit crazy. Sounds to me like he picked a word out of a hat, and doesn’t even know what it means. Reminds me of a little kid saying, ‘I know you are, but what am I?’ Ignore the farkus, hon. xoxo
I’m reminded of that childhood saying “I’m rubber, you’re glue, whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you”. Just think of that next time he tries to label you with anything!
I am so sorry Courtney. He is wrong, insane, and an asshole. I want to acknowledge your pain, though. It can hurt like hell when others who have zero idea what they’re talking about diagnose you like that — especially when it’s from the perpetrator of your trauma.
I have had similar things happen in my life — it made me feel helpless and so angry.
This shit even happens to veterans. They are purposely misdiagnosed and discharged from the military with personality disorder rather than PTSD — to save money, making them ineligible for VA benefits because PD means pre-existing.
My SA also said to me this year he thought for 2 years I was faking my PTSD for attention.
OMG! I can’t even imagine faking PTSD to get attention, and how painful that must have been when he said that to you. I think I let this into my head because other things he’s said I knew weren’t true and I didn’t know really anything about borderline and thought maybe there was some truth.
I agree w NAP regarding projection – I think these guys project all the time and many of THEM are borderline. You are not.
Well I know bpd- is about emotional disregulation, as the main symptom. But let’s be honest- Sa’s can cause a lot of pain and turmoil and abuse- to get partners emotionally disregulated!!!!!
Try to see that he is just shifting focus away from his problem. Whether it’s true or not shouldn’t matter in a sense. YOU do what you need to do to feel better and more healthy. I wouldn’t be surprised if it was just a tactic to cause trouble and shift blame.
Courtney — it was painful. From the beginning, I have had a lot of issues even having my trauma recognized as trauma throughout this, so it felt like icing on the damn cake coming from him, since he did this to me. I don’t care anymore what he thinks. It just proves his utter stupidity and inability to take any responsibility for the suffering he’s caused.
Alice — yes, they sure can. Emotional dysregulation is a common symptom of complex PTSD too.
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