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Happy Mother’s Day to everyone also! I think that our crafty sa’s picked the best women in order for them to have their “cover”, so in a sad way I think that we may be the best mothers out there. If the sa way of life is passed down from generations, then we know that we are the women who will break this line. We know better, so we’ll do better. Our sons and daughters will know more as they navigate the stormy waters of relationships. My children have me as their mother, and they are strong, lovely people who know that truth is the only thing that matters. Not money or power, like their dad thinks
To all you amazing women…may you have the happiest of days celebrating and honoring the incredible blessing of being a Mother.
Christine
I have such a hard time with Mother’s Day because I picked HIM for their father…
He’s a good father ( as far as they know) but I swear I would give anything to get them so far away from him if I could without hurting them.
I feel awful that I failed. I don’t care what anybody says. I chose him. I picked him on purpose. I did that to my kids.
Sorry, it’s a downer post but I feel awful.
Bev, I hate it that you feel awful. You should feel triumphant that you are raising such wonderful children and are obviously doing a damn good job of it too. You may have chosen a lousy husband but you picked a good father and you wouldn’t have those two beautiful children without him so go easy on yourself.
Love you,
Daisyyes bev, go easy.
i may struggle with this mother’s day. i hear you loud and clear bev. i became the mother of an asshole’s child. my son is a beautiful, smart, funny, empathic young boy. but i wonder how he will turn out considering who his model is. here’s hoping i can make a difference. but i’m so angry so much of the time right now, i’m not sure i’m a great mom.
i think next year will be fine. but i don’t want to celebrate moher’s day with DW tomorrow, and i don’t want to deal with him sulking about it if i celebrate with my son without him. so i think i may just skip ‘officially’ celebrating it this year. maybe i’ll just focus on my kid and have fun with him, no matter what we do.
i wish i could say he can’t take it away from me, but right here and now, the joy of that day has been stolen from me.
maybe you and i will feel different tomorrow, bev. xo
Bev,
We all picked them. Nobody’s happy about that especially when children are involved. Please take it easy on yourself. You know that none of this is your fault. It really isn’t. If we could go back and do it all over again, knowing what we know now, of course we wouldn’t have chose them. But that’s history now. Now we have to deal with what we’ve got in the best way possible. You can do this, I know you can. You are a very strong individual and those kids need you. You just keep doing what you do and they will be just fine, I’m sure of it.
Pamper yourself on Mother’s Day. I’m not doing anything special. My son sent me a really touching card with a wonderful handwritten note in it. I’ll call my Mom tomorrow and get caught up there. Other than that, just relax and take care of the animals.
Best wishes to everyone on this Mother’s Day. Being a mother is indeed the one thing we do very well!
Big thanks to all you great ladies. I am sneaking my coffee before I am forced to eat my breakfast in bed “surprise”. Our children are wonderful and they need us.
I just hope I can get the dogs to eat some of the breakfast 🙂
Happy Mother’s Day! A special quote for you lovely Sisters/Mothers:
“All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.” ~ Abraham Lincoln
And for all of the Sisters missing their Mother’s today – and all days – I wish you peace.
“Never does one feel oneself so utterly helpless as in trying to speak comfort for great bereavement. I will not try it. Time is the only comforter for the loss of a mother.” ~ Jane Welsh Carlyle
This is perfect- our children are wonderful and they need us. Thanks bev, that was exactly what I needed to hear today.
Dear Sisters
Happy mothers day. Thank you for being such a great help and support to me. Thanks for reaching out when I needed it most. Thanks for sharing my tears, my laughter, my experiences and the privilege to raise and teach our children true values. All my love, You are MY heroines xxxxMy Stbx is punishing me today by keeping the kids till 6 pm because I would not go with his plans for the children custody.
Happy Mother’s Day all you fabulous mothers!!
I worked today and blessed all the mothers that came in to shop.
I called my mother and will spend the day with her tomorrow.
I got a funny card from my h with a very nice note telling me what a great Mom I was and am. Tears.
I haven’t heard from my kids.
I bought myself a beautiful wrap skirt in blue and green print, a black and white short jacket, a black and white print asymetrical hem top, a big chunky celadon and silver bead necklace and earrings and a blue green print top with some sparkle on the front.
Love to all, Debora
Bev Darling…you are NOT that omnipotent…to be able to know a pathological liar when you meet one, to be able to know someone is broken inside, when they disguise it so well, to think someone is not trustworthy….without any tangible evidence,and to conceive that another person would have an entirely secret life running parallel to the life you share. HOW could you know that and choose differently? I mean…it is not as if you would have chosen him knowingly?? It isn’t your fault..not even one little bit. Your kids will be ok because you are their mother and you are a damn good mother. A little self sacrificing…but that is a big part of mothering- isn’t it?? Happy Mother’s Day to all! Karen xx
Happy Mother’s Day to all the sisters. Bev, I totally understand and feel for you. Be kind to yourself and remember to use the same kind words that you would use if talking to a friend. It sounds corny but it might just help. The holidays are all a little bittersweet these days, but we are strong women and if ever kids needed strength it is when one of their parents lacks…well… everything. I’d drink a toast to us as moms any day.
harmony, i’m sorry. happy mother’s eve. i’m sorry. shaking my head. he can’t take motherhood away from you. he can’t take who you are, no matter how hard he tries. sorry xoxo
How does any A’hole keep the kids from their mother on Mother’s Day? I’m sorry Harmony but they will hate him later for that. I couldn’t keep my kids from H on father’s day….I wouldn’t even try.
Karen, you’re right. I try to make myself believe I’m all that smart but nobody could be that smart ( omnipotent). I am harder on myself than I am on anybody else….
Debora, I am so glad you bought yourself something. It may not be the ‘dream mother’s day’ but you did something. That counts.
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