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Working through my demons with the emdr therapist and yesterday she asked if I’d heard of gas lighting and said that “normal people don’t do these things”
At last!
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Good on you Jos. I must admit I had never heard of gaslighting before being on this site. I googled it and yeah exactly as the sistas said it is. All the best with your therapist.
My favorite is when i have your proof (like every good PI) and I’m ready to confront the POS with it. He changes the subject and I walk away like WTF Just happened. I called it the shell game or distraction. Where’s the pea. Sheps clothing calls it diversion. I didn’t know I just knew I had been had.
Jos I had never heard of it before either until this site. Working with a bunch of men who seem to be constantly on the sexual prowl I’ve pointed it out to them in hearing some of their stories of woe, which most times were self inflicted.
It’s funny now because some actually use the term jokingly when I call them out in discussions we have about their women troubles.
Heard of it? Honey, I could roast a pig on a spit on it in this house. Glad you found a good therapist.
Look up the movie, made from a play, called Gaslight, from the 1930s with Ingrid Bergman and Joseph Cotton. It’s about a manipulative murderer, who marries his young step-daughter, then goes looking for the treasure in the attic. The lights dim every time he goes up there, but he says oh, no the lights are fine, etc., and ultimately convinces poor Ingrid and all their friends that she is insane and cannot trust herself, and he (almost) gets away with murder again. A must see noir movie for us gaslighted folks. this is how it came into the language of psychology.
OOooh yeah, SJ tried that. Didn’t have the effect he intended. I didn’t think I was going crazy, just figured out he is.
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