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I’m so sorry, Artemis. I wish there was something I could do to relieve your pain. You’re in my heart and thoughts. I am catching up on your past recent threads — thank you for sharing with us your strength. You have a beautiful soul, and have never deserved to be treated this way.
Just hope he really means it. These aholes tend to say stuff like that and then THEY contact you. You need tell him that goes both ways, jackoff. I know it hurts Artemis. I am sorry for the pain it is causing you. But trust me, he just did you a GIANT favor. You are rid of him. And if he does happen to try to contact you, just hang up. Say nothing. Hang up. You are a young beautiful lady with a lot to offer a healthy man. Please don’t waste on minute of your precious life on this scumbag, who dishonored who you are. At your very soul. Be glad and look at the pain like a bad splinter that pusses up and when it finally bursts and is removed, feels sooo much better. He was your splinter, girl. hugs
I’s sorry for your pain, Artemis. It would have been so much more satisfying if you could have done that first. That’s probably why he did it, to beat you. Some of these guys have an intuition about that.
Hugs, Artemis. Sorry for your pain and all the trauma he has put you through. You deserve so much better.
So sorry Artemis. It hurts right now but in the long term it is probably something that you will view as a good thing. You are a great girl and someday you will find someone that really does love you.
I know this isn’t what you want to hear Artemis, BUT, what if he hadn’t? What if he had said lets stay friends or lets talk over coffee? You see where I am going with this? It is either over or it isn’t. There may be an excuse for contact when you have kids but there is no excuse when you end it with a boyfriend. Even in the world of “normal” relationships, there has to be a long, cooling off period for former lovers to achieve enough detachment to be friends. Often the so called “lets be friends ” is just one person not really able to let go yet, or the other person pretending they are not really eliminating you from their life, even though that is exactly what they are doing. You will never be free to be present for another man until you let him go. And that is the entire purpose of the exercise isn’t it? To find someone who doesn’t hurt you? To find someone who doesn’t have sex with other women in your bed? To find someone who doesn’t lie? Or is the purpose STILL to see if you can change him into what you need him to be? Or maybe to have enough contact so it doesn’t hurt so much? That is just like ripping off a bandage slowly……and dragging out the misery, dear girl. As to his response- well- they do LOVE dramatic effect. One would think you had been fucking others in his bed and not the other way around. A mature, kind man would have said “Artemis, you broke up with me. I think it is best if we limit contact for a period of time. Don’t you agree?” Bt he isn’t a mature man. He isn’t a man at all. I believe you can find a decent man but you are going to hurt for a good while. There is no way to stay without being hurt and there is no way to leave without hurt. The difference is in one scenario you have a chance of the hurt ending? In the other….not too likely. I wish there was a way to take your pain away. You don’t deserve it and it is unfair. But it will end, IF you stay no contact and let your life move forward. I am sorry for what he has done to you but I don’t want to see you give him any more opportunities to step on your self esteem. He has done enough of that. Please do as he says and never contact him again.
Massive Hugs, KarenYuk, Artemis. I’m sorry that you’re in pain.
I hope this frees you to move on and find happiness in a life free of sa. You deserve it!I have no idea how I would handle that, Artemis. I mean, yeah, he’s doing you a favor in the long run, but this sounds like he’s playing a power game with you for the sake of his messed-up ego. And it’s like he’s trying to reverse the roles as if he were the injured party. Doesn’t get much more crazy-making than that. I sorta kinda want to punch him right now. I think you need to go out for drinks with your friends and/or your sister. I know that’s not very productive advice. I’m just so sorry for what you’re going through. xoxo
“I think you need to go out for drinks with your friends and/or your sister. I know that’s not very productive advice.”
Best.Advice.Ever. 🙂
Artemis, You just can’t trust anything they do or say. There’s always an angle, and its never for your benefit. And they love it when we spend our energy agonizing over what they say and do.
Annie, I sorta kinda wanna punch him too. Should we be taking numbers?
What happened? Tell us about it if you want to. Sometimes it helps to get it all out. If you don’t feel up to it then that’s okay. It does feel like you are losing your mind because the reality of the situation makes no sense. They never make any sense. You are not crazy Artemis. He is not real.
Grief can make you fell like you are going crazy Artemis but I am certain you are not losing your mind. When you are ready to tell us, tell us? We want to help.
thank you everyone… i don’t have the energy to talk about it yet but i will when i can. right now i am trying to mentally prepare for my parents visit – tomorrow – i don’t know what i am going to tell them about SAXBF. last they knew we were happily vacationing in hawaii. they will be staying in my house & i will be staying at my sister’s up the street. i will not have my own space. i just have to make it through the next few days.
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