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I do not understand what part of the kid needs notice to adjust to a change in plans is so difficult to grasp. You have to let Bat have a routine at your home Teri. You comply ( or whatever word you choose) to help Bat get thru his daily life. I have worked with kids like that. They are fine if you let them know what the “plan” is . I have had kindergarten students that would have a complete freak out if we had a fire drill. I had to go to the principle, the guidance counselor and tell them if you want my class out of the building and you want this child out then someone will have to come take my class and let me get him out or we are all going down in the fire.

Bat will need to learn to deal with change of plan stuff eventually ( life is like that). He cannot learn that with doc evil. He must learn it with someone that he trusts.

It is so maddening that Angela cannot have more of a voice regarding this.

A simple request to make Bat aware of the plans. It just is not that difficult.

Maybe Bat could email dad and cc therapists of his preference for visitation activity. That way it is on record that Bat asked for what he was willing to do and doc evil refused to comply.

Go to breakfast at whatever place
Go to a movie, bowling, walk in the park, video store, bookstore, library, …whatever
Go to Dad’s and work on a school project, watch a movie, read a book, put together a jigsaw puzzle…whatever
Go back home.

Let Bat express what he is comfortable with doing. Let doc evil explain why he isn’t interested in Bat’s wishes.

Geez, that dude needs to be stopped. Poor Bat is trying to stand up for himself and his own Dad is running him over.
Teri, i’m so sad you have to deal with this and Bat too. I cannot believe how much strength and patience you have. Take the Xanax, it’s there to help you. Like they say, just don’t abuse it. Holy crap, I just can’t believe what this poor child has to go through.
Much love, Claire