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Tell him you are having “woman” trouble. Prick your finger and wipe blood all over a bunch of maxi pads…. Tell him your cramps are horrible and you are calling the doc..
Tell him your OB got worried over an irregular pap smear and asked about your sexual partners… If you think he may be up to screwing others… That will scare the shit out of him. And you can always say the doc says no sex until they stop your bleeding. Bad periods happen 🙂
Don’t make up excuses for why he cannot stick HIS penis inside YOUR vagina, which is YOUR vagina and to which he’s lost all privileges. Don’t ALLOW him to make you pay in any way for saying no. Tell him your vagina talks to you and she called him a “diseased motherfucking pervert” and she locked the gate. Don’t believe for a minute that you’re doing your kids any favors by not keeping him out. That’s a thing we tell ourselves because WE can’t stand the loss, personally. I know there’s NO WAY my home environment and the messages I’m sending by keeping him around are good for my 12-year-old. And it wasn’t good for her when she was 3 or 5 or 8…Furthermore, it has been TERRIBLE for my older daughters, who cry FOR me and cannot understand why I would subject myself…keep living a life that I would never wish on them.
I agree completely with March. I didn’t kick my SAH out because I wasn’t ready. My kids went through the wringer for my own insecurity. And I did it because I convinced myself that I was protecting them.
You deserve better…..you really do. This guy is sick and he needs serious help. He will not seek help if he can continue his life – have his cake and eat it, too. He wanted a divorce because he wanted to do whatever he wants. The “double life” is taxing after awhile. He is binging – no doubt about it. He is probably screwing pantyhose mammas. I would be so surprised if he wasn’t. The “work” excuse is a facade.
If I had to do it all over again – I would have hired a PI (like Bev did) or put EBlaster on his phone or computer. You need to know what is going on. I think that will give you the strength to protect yourself. Right now you have no idea what is going on. You need to know – and I don’t think it will be pretty.
Do you care about your sick husband? If so – then give him a wake-up call and see if he seeks help. Otherwise, go visit and attorney and run (don’t walk).
Deb
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