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Does your husband wear his wedding ring? If not, when did he stop?
I told mine after d-day #1 when I took mine off that it bothered me that he still had on the ring I gave him, but understood it was his choice. After d-day #2, he took his off and told me it was “scary” to be without it. It made the uncertainty of our relationship so much more real and present for him.
It’s kind of amusing that when we go out to eat sometimes the waitress will ask, “one check or two?” that never happened when we both had rings. It drives him crazy.
MarieI know mine isn’t wearing his ring anymore obviously. To be honest, from his behavior, I don’t think it meant too much to him anyway, ever.
napPS. It was just for show like I was.
Hi Marie,
I wore mine until i kicked the h out. I then slowly started not wearing mine and replaced it with another very pretty ring, quite frankly i love the sparkle of the diamond. But anyway the h wore his until i filed for divorce now he does not wear it anymore.My SAH was in a little mood a few weeks back (and before I told him that I had filed for a divorce) and he was leaving me nasty post it notes on the counter, or trying to pick a fight via text, etc. One note said, “I think we need to take a little break”. Then, he went down to OUR boat for the weekend and I noticed he left his wedding ring on his dresser.
Whatever Dude. You wanna a BREAK??? You got it!!!!!!!Silver-Lining – I would definitely give him a permanent break And kick his ass in the process. Sorry you had to go through one more trauma and disappointment in your’e life. How are you doing this week?
Here’s a story which I now find funny, though at the time I just didn’t know how to respond. My husband didn’t ever want to have a wedding ring. When I said it would be nice if he had one to wear when we were out together, he suggested that he wear the wedding band from his previous marriage on those occasions. He also said that the reason he doesn’t want a ring is for my benefit – because wedding bands on men are like (*insert derogatory word for female genitals here*)- magnets. I was too baffled to answer and never brought up the topic of the ring again. At least I’ve now learnt to laugh and his crass insensitivity.
Laya, this is a quote from an article about women who prey on married men. Its a little crass, too, but maybe your h was speaking truth!
“So what makes men cheat on perfectly wonderful wives with tacky, classless, and essentially dog faced women? The answer is simple. These women are desperate and prey upon married men by spreading their legs and making sex at any time available.
Home wreckers typically thrive on power and dominance, and are excited when they feel like they are both getting away with something by participating in an affair and are stealing something from another woman. If they ever realized for one minute that a man they were cheating with was either sexually undesirable or morally repugnant to the wife, chances are they would not be too interested. However, if there is a marital commitment that the wife values, look out! Nothing will make a slut crawl out of the gutter faster than is she detects that a man and woman who might otherwise have a rock solid marriage have a weakness — namely, that he can be manipulated and exploited willingly by other women to make himself feel more alive, confident, attractive, or vibrant.”
Thanks Lylo,
It makes sense – I agree with the article because I know that my husband had numerous “encounters” with one of the women who actually attended our wedding. And I particularly liked the phrasing: “men cheat on perfectly wonderful wives with tacky, classless, and essentially dog faced women”. The only thing I disagree with is where it says that these men are “manipulated and exploited” – it almost makes them sound like innocent victims.
What I found so ironic about his behaviour is that he felt he was “protecting” me from these women (by not wearing a wedding ring), while jumping into bed with the same ones. It makes me want to laugh and puke all at the same time.
Thanks again – the “slut crawl out of the gutter” image really brightened my day.
Much love,
LayaHi Laya,
It states that the OW has detected a weakness and he is exploited willingly… puts blame on both.So he was protecting you? From what he was going to do anyways? Hmmm… can’t have it both ways. So sorry that we are all in such a position that the “slut crawl out of the gutter” image could brighten our day. XXOO Lylo
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