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You ladies have awesome memories!! Someday I’m going to start a forum called, “What did he do again?” And y’all can remind me! LOL! By the way, here are a few recent beauties: He got mad and threw a cherished pic of SL and I in the dumpster, breaking the cute frame she bought me. Got a “Sorry about the picture” text the next day. Last week, he was annoyed that the AC was on, and he ripped the thermostat off the wall. I took a pic, and with some urging from SL, put it on fb. Let him embarrass himself. 😉
And don’t forget to take pictures of the house and all it’s contents in case he disputes you damaged something….
Did he do that kind of stuff through your “marriage”? Or is this behavior coming out in the divorce process? I’m afraid of my husband’s anger, and what he could do to make me as miserable as possible during the divorce process.
ZG – I don’t know how you’re able to live in the same house while divorcing. I would go absolutely insane! As it is with our separation, my h. feels so entitled when he comes to the house. He never comes unannounced but over the 4th of July holiday, my girls & I went to my sisters for a few days and when we got home, I saw signs that he had slept in the guest room. When I asked about it, he said he watched a movie because the tv is much better here. I was just creeped out and it feels like a violation.
FC- change the locks or get an alarm system. I did both bc I feared that same kind of thing- either when we were there or when we were gone. Either that or demand keys to his place and the right to go over whenever you want- after all, if you are married, it’s half yours, right? Ugh.
I guess I feel like I’ve been treading a fine line and I know realistically, I can’t have it both ways but it does help me out. For example, I asked him to come over while we were gone to do a few small chores around the house. So, I knew he’d be there – I just didn’t think he would stay the night. He’s staying here next week to dog-sit while the girls and I go to the beach so that is a big help.
It’s just a reminder that even if I could afford to stay in this house after we divorce, I’m not going to want to b/c he’ll always feel this sense of entitlement about it.
Courtney,
This extra level of high-douche behavior has been throughout the divorce process. But really, he has always been the same person. I just was very passive and submissive, so he never had to get to this level. I think my starting to fight back is what’s throwing him off. I don’t think he’d be physically violent to me; he’s just a big baby. But I also am not making any assumptions there either. To be honest, I do feel a little afraid at times, but I’m tired of fear ruling me.
FC, being in the same house is horrible, but I think at least that part will be ending very soon. Thank God.ZG – have you made any progress on the home inventory list? Your question sparked me to start working on mine. If you haven’t started anything yet, I would suggest just using an Excel spreadsheet and list out each room and the main items in it (like furniture & electronics). I wouldn’t worry yet about a monetary value, just try to get a list down. Take it in small steps to make it more managable. I totally agree with your lawyers, though. The more of this you do on your own, the cheaper it is. It would be very expensive to have a lawyer come through and write up an inventory for you.
My spreadsheet is nothing fancy but let me know if you want me to send it to you.
ChristineOh my gosh; I would love to see it if it’s not too much trouble. Just to get a visual!! I don’t know if you can send it through here or not? my email address is jzbramley@gmail.com. Feel free to use it!!
Thanks!
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