Hoping.

Crystal – I haven’t watched the video so can’t comment on that but if the most important take-away you get from it is to focus on yourself, then I think that is a good message. In any situation (SA or not), we cannot control others, we can only control ourselves and how we react/respond to something. So regardless of whether or not your H is truly willing to/will recover, at the end of the day you need to be healthy, to be strong and be there for your kids. Sadly, too many of us have heard these things before and time & again they prove to revert pretty quickly back to their old ways. I agree that if whores are willing to sleep with a married man, they have already proven to be liars so I wouldn’t put much weight into their responses .

I sincerely hope your H is the exception to the rule (maybe his military code of honor will kick in?) but I have my doubts. I would just caution if you’re in a place where you’re willing to work on the marriage…just “trust but verify” anything he tells you and keep eBlaster on the computer as an insurance policy.

I have the same attitude about the mythical recovering SA. He’s like Sasquatch.

i believe in Sasquatch more than a recovered SA 🙂

Wouldn’t you love to ask Carnes that? “Why have more people seen Sasquatch than recovered SA’s?”

That would be the second question I asked Carnes–right after, Have you no shame?