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Hi everyone,
How did you meet your husband or ex- husband? How long did you date before you got married ?I met mine when we were both medical students, he came on strong and that didn’t work for me, but I really liked him. So we were friends for a year, dated other people. Started dating after the year of being friends, married 3 years later, 4 years after meeting him.
What’s your “how did you meet ” story?
MarieI have to laugh as I type this and I hope you do too!
We met on..drumroll please – Match.com LMAO!! I had signed on for about three days and was bombarded by so many pervs I deactivated the account. Oddly enough he was the only “normal” guy who got through before I deactivated the account.
We emailed back and forth for a few weeks, then talked on the phone for a short time and then began dating. We were married within a year of dating then he was transferred to another state.
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This “thing” I married is the one and only person I have ever met online. He was a friend of a friend on myspace..we started talking and became cross country buddies, since I was living out West at the time. When I moved back East, we hung out as buddies, and somehow we wound up dating, even though he wasn’t my type AT ALL. We got married a year later. Worst mistake I have ever made.
We met at school. We were 11. We were good friends from the age of about 14 and started dating at 16. We dated for 7 years before we married. I thought I knew everything there was to know about him. How wrong I was……
Bb
xI met my husband in 1986 after placing a personal ad in NY Magazine. He wrote me the most beautiful, thoughtful, highly, highly intelligent, creative letter in different colors of ink and even a stamp from Zimbabwe (formerly Rhodesia) and included a nice photo of himself. I remember that my big sis was visiting and we were laughing about all of the responses and I said, hold on, I want to hear this guy’s voice. You can tell a lot about a person by the message they leave on their answering machine.
It was 4:30 and instead of getting the answering machine, I got HIM. He had just come home from work! We ended up chatting for the longest time and it was like talking to a long lost friend. Then he called me up a day or two later and we talked for at least a couple of hours…
I met him the following week, and moved in with him, about four months later, as I was spending half of my time there, anyway. We got engaged a year after that, and married four months later.
He was so wonderful to me. He had a great job and made really good money. He was so gregarious and warm and honest and RELIABLE AS HELL! He was full of life and possibility.
I knew without a shadow of a doubt that anything that would come our way, we could handle.
AND WE DID—TOGETHER!!!
Our two very tough, tough kids, reversals of career, and the loss of family and friends and on and on…
but over time, he regressed, piece by piece until the man I see now, is merely a shadow of the person I planned to spend the rest of my life with.
its heartbreaking, all the way around. I loved that man, so much, for many, many years but the one who came in and took over— I don’t love.
The loss of intimacy is something that I had reconciled. I filled my life with other activities such as my dancing, singing, volunteer work at our high school and in the community.
I hope that doesn’t sound polly-anna-ish.
The acting out, I can deal with. If only…
If only he had come to me, when I have asked him so many times… so many times… but no. Each time, he’s left it for me to discover and its like ripping off a fresh scab, which makes the wound deeper and deeper each time. 🙁
As with Stillstanding, I met my SA through Match.com. I had been on the site for a while, had three HORRIBLE dates and was about to let my membership expire. Before I was to sign off for good, I went back through my list of guys that I thought I might be interested in and remembered that though I did not want to meet this guy I did want to respond to him because he was the only one who posted about his pride for all the first responders on 9-11. I thought it was great that he took the time to write about them and not himself. So i sent him a note and told him i was very proud to have firefighters like him and that I shared his feelings of 9-11. He wrote back and the rest is history. We dated for a year and a half before we got engaged. Then (because we lived in different cities) I moved to his city and we bought a house together but only I lived in the new house as he still had his daughter living with him at his house. We married two years later.
we met because our sons were in pre school together. were best of friends for 4 years, he pretty much became a father figure to my kids over that time. he was always there for all of us. anytime i had a problem with the house he was there at 3 in the morning he came. he was the best of the best. one night he kissed me and that was it, funny he is nothing like any other man ive been attracted to, nothing……… we moved in together then with in a year moved 400 miles away from my old life, friends,family. to start out fresh and new. now im alone and its 10 years latter
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