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Wow, I just had the weirdest thought. When my H gave me this GPS as a belated Christmas gift (I didn’t ask for and probably won’t use this) it was out of the box. I asked him why and he said he was working to see how it attached to the car.
I remember someone else here saying they bugged their H’s so they could tell where he was.
My H’s last disclosure had all kinds of things he was suspicious that I was doing, affairs, hook-ups, etc. (Ridiculous, never would consider this, not my style, I’m too washed out with this mess to have a spare breath much less chase other guys)
Wondering if he’s bugged it? Does anyone know how to find out?
lyning if you have the box take it back for a even exchange. this would confuse the shit out of him if he did anything to it,
True, it’s just that it would make me LIVID if it were. It did occur to me to go somewhere really bad, regularly, and sit in the parking lot and wait to see if he shows up looking for me. But, he’d probably drive right past my van, go in, have sex with some floozy and then come home and accuse me of adultery and having proof that I was there while he never saw me at all.
You’re right, who cares? What’s to find out? Just that he’s fucked over the most honest loving woman he ever had privilege to know. He probably already knows that and is counting on it to keep up his public persona.
Wouldn’t it be funny if it ended up far, far away, and he thinks I’ve split, and there I am, sitting at the dinner table? LOL
Good grief, we are living out the most bizarre situations!
Lynn, I think you’re right. He’s bugging you.
I love the idea of putting in the UPS truck, or his.
Mainly I’m thinking don’t put any energy into it if you don’t care about him knowing where you go. If you do, just deep six it.
I think he’s just trying to hook you into conversations and arguments.d.xo
A SA will put the gps on your car to make sure you are not following him when he goes on his escapades. They really dont care where we go.
I agree with NAP. I do not believe that they have the capability of feeling anything remotely close to a human feeling, and this includes jealousy. They are, however, paranoid assholes who will make it appear that they are “worried” we may do to them what has been done to us; but in reality the only thing they are worried about is getting caught again because that kills part of what makes them feel so special…doing bad things and GETTING AWAY WITH IT, not getting caught.
Just to screw with him though, I would make an adventure of driving around to places which will confuse him; go to 3 different grocery stores within an hour or so…repeatedly drive down dead end streets for no reason..and if you really want to see if he’s watching, drive to a law firm. More than once. 🙂I took it to my favorite IT guy, the one who discovered all the porn on the laptop. He said it’s clean. So, we can’t have fun with it. Geez.
Just a stupid, “what would I want?’ gift picked up where he happened to be at the moment, to get him out of hot water (in his own mind).
But, the IT guy said it’s so much easier to track someone using the cell phone. and I don’t have access to that account, only H does. So, who’s to say it’s not been happening all along?
But I can’t live as paranoid as all that. The crazy making with driving around, that would be fun in a twisted kind of way. Just too busy, though, to waste my life trying to screw with a screw up. He’s done the job himself, I’m free to live my own life. Have to keep telling myself that.
Thanks for so many great ideas~!!!!
Maybe narcs don’t feel genuine jealousy, but they do strive to WIN in any situation, which means they DON’T want to be fooled. They sure don’t want to be on the other end of the kinds of atrocities they pull on others. So yes, he might very well be concerned with what/who you’re doing.
Oh, didn’t see your post, Lynn.
Just a thought for those of you who want information and don’t find this kind of behavior beneath you. I used to put a small digital recorder in my h’s car. I put velcro on the recorder and on the bottom of the car seat and attached it there out of sight. Got lots–phone conversations, etc.
If you are prone to doing the recorder thing, be sure to get one that is ‘voice activated’ that way it will only record when it ‘hears’ a voice talking.
The voice-activated thing is iffy. These devices record for up to 16 hours, so I just let it run. It does make it tedious to go through the recordings, but you don’t have the garble or the problems with radio etc.
I had one, once, I used to check if my dog was barking loudly while we were gone. (He was!) Don’t know where it is now, it really worked, though.
I just don’t have the stomach for this. So what if I find out all this stuff, talking, etc. The attorney said only photos or eye witness were admissable in court, despite all the emails and texts I have. How would voice recordings be any different.
I just don’t want to spend any more energy on that, now. Want to be with children and paint and figure out school. All his craziness is something I cannot control at all.
Guess when I’m completely on my path, I’ll either hire someone, or get more gear, and try again for proof a court will accept.
This is a funny, strange thread. I loved Katt’s idea about exchanging it. 🙂 It would not have occured to me that they might GPS your car to see if you were following them??? Talk about no trust….I would also be wondering WHY he bought me a GPS for a belated Xmas gift?? Lynn, your husband is weird in a way that makes me uneasy. I just don’t know what his game is. I only know he is busy playing one. Try to focus on school, dear girl. Karen xx
I totally understand not having the stomach for it, and not wanting to waste your valuable time and energy. BUT, in the future, if you get nearer to the point of hiring a PI, the info from a tape can save time/money and send the PI in the right direction from the get-go.
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