Hunting down the Bitches!

Direct your anger squarely at him, Jessica. No one tied him up and held him at gunpoint. You need all your energy to take care of yourself. Don’t waste it.

I understand the desire. Been there. Confronting a prostitute is a real waste of energy. I called two whose phone numbers he forgot to erase, with him beside me in the bed, and had him tell them on speaker that he would never see them again. Their scripted response was instantaneous “We were just friends, you have nothing to feel threatened about.”

WTF? What real woman feels threatened by a rent-a-twat?
Just that statement made me angry beyond belief. But it was pointless and destructive to me, only. He called them back from another phone as soon as he was out of earshot and asked them to please keep in touch, he was sorry. Yeah, I have proof of that, too.

Just don’t bother, really. March is right. Those whores didn’t pick him out of the crowd, he picked them. And whores do married men all the time, they’re not the least bit ashamed or guilty about it. Those are their best clients. Sad, but true.

Here’s another way to look at it Jessica.

What would you say or do if you found her?

Kick her ass? Good luck with that, if she doesn’t clean the floor with you. I know because I’ve had a few physical fights with them. They can fight. Worse case, you end up in jail.

What would you say to her? Stop screwing my husband? Yeah, that’ll do it……not.

Just say you locate her in person or on the phone. You ask her if she’s been with (I’ll use the name Bob for example) your husband Bob. She responds with which Bob? Bob in Spokane, Bob in Detroit, Bob in LA, you’ll need to be more specific.

You say Bob in Screwville. She says oh that Bob, yes I know him. He was into wearing diapers and held onto a huge pacifier while I let him suckle my tit like a newborn.

You say he’s married. She says so are 70% of my clients.

You call her a home wrecking, nasty, bitch whore.

She says you owe her $200 because that’s her going rate for letting them call her those names during sex.

What was accomplished?

Zero

There’s nothing you can say that someone else’s wife who actually did track her down hasn’t already said to her.

She won’t stop whoring and she won’t stop taking money from men.

Heinous acts of men, like paying $300-700 an hour for rent-a-twat? Sorry, March. These women were educated, with children, and one with a husband who was a professional. They just happened to like the fact that they can make $1000 a day because God graced them with the goods that made it possible. Yes, the husband knows about his wife’s “hobby”.

Well, that’s what I’m saying. If men weren’t so crass as to pay for sex, these women wouldn’t be in business. No man forced them through bad circumstances to make $1000 a day fucking. These women just like the money. That, to me, makes them cheaper than the $20 in the alley whores who really are trying to just stay alive. A pig pimped out in a year’s salary worth of diamonds is still a pig, just wearing more expensive muck.

People overlook the fact that it’s not the BEFORE market heinousness that is to blame. It’s the presence of a market, period. If the pimps couldn’t make money they wouldn’t exist, either.

Heinousness is not what people think, it’s not what I thought. It’s a whole lot more subtle and pervasive. We all buy into it. Valuation by your attraction quotient. THAT’s the heinousness. Getting off using the most ‘sexy’ woman you could buy that day. That’s heinous. That’s vile.

Hi Jessica,

Why not concentrate on making HIM pay? After all, she didn’t promise to love and cherish you, did she?
I completely understand the sentiment…ALL of us do. But when you are further down the road in this process, you will come to see, what we have all come to see….dignity and calm are the real things that get to these guys. They love attention- ANY kind of attention. If he can light a fire under you and have you running all over town like a crazy woman, defending her man….he will lap that right up and apply it to his sick ego
…just like he applied the rent-a-twat? Now…do you really want to give that prick the satisfaction of sending you out on a whore manhunt. She is a hooker. She doesn’t care if he is married and she doesn’t care about you. Don’t bring yourself down to her level. It’s bad enough what your husband did to try to humiliate you. Don’t let him drive you to doing his dirty work for him.All that focus on the other woman or women is usually just a way to distract you from deciding what you are going to do about him. He married you. He is to blame. Period. Hugs, Karen x

As far as I’m concerned these people all deserve each other. They all have much in common.

Really Jessica, the wanting revenge part we get. We really do.

But at the end of the day, you have to ask yourself what matters more to you.

Does it matter more that he sought out a whore to screw for cash or that she accepted and screwed him?

If it were my husband, it would definitely be the former.

He should be your target of anger, not the whore.

When I found the website with my h’s reviews of the prostitutes I talked to my therapist about it and she said that most of these girls are sexually abused and damaged. Most of the girls my h was with were 18 – 20. I was so angry at my h I wrote the following letter to the GIRLS and tried to post it to the website. They rejected it but it made me feel better to write it. I am not sure how I feel about these girls now, the letter was a knee jerk reaction at the time:

Dear young girl,
You may know me. I’m Donna, my name is tattooed to my husband’s hip. I’m writing to you to express my sorrow at my husband’s actions. He was using you, as are the men who manage you and this service. You probably already know this. If you think he acted this way because “he wasn’t getting any at home” you are mistaken. There is so much more to this issue, but maybe you know that already as well. He has three daughters around your age. I am certain he would not want them doing what you are doing for a living. Hypocrites aren’t they! In my humble opinion this is what is wrong with our world. If “we were running the world” there would be more mutual respect and love. If you like what you are doing and don’t think my husband is a total fucking idiot then just disregard this letter. Sincerely, D.

Why not file a report with the police?

I liked that letter, it was sad and told the truth. The MAN is the one who is making this all happen. And lying to everyone involved.

Believe me, I wanted to fry them ALL. But with more and more discoveries it became really clear the person who created ALL of my pain was my husband. And he did it knowing full well it would destroy me to find out. He just thought he was “clever” enough to keep it all secret forever.

I thought since I had written dates and times and places in my husband’s hand writing that did all those whores, and admission in a (very) public forum that he did it, he would have to face the legal consequences. Nope. Only being caught in the act of transferring the MONEY person to person in a setting where sexual intercourse is probable based upon his history matters, and that’s only a misdemeanor.

I read up online (gag) about the whore protocol, and they stage it so they do not ever touch the money at the same time. He puts it down in a blank envelope when he comes in, and goes to “freshen up” (gag again) in the bathroom, the whore checks the amount. At which point if they’ve changed their mind for some reason they just leave. Or not.

I did a lot of research, and it was disgusting and disheartening. It’s just not worth it. Well, in some counties, the John’s can go to jail for a short period if they have been caught over a certain number of times (say ten) in the same county. Slap on the wrist. Usually they just do community service. Maybe.

It thrives because there’s just no enforcement. Wonder why?