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A year ago during this time of festivity, family gatherings, and lots of time to think, I found myself alone one afternoon. My kids were over at my sisters place. I just left the gathering, without even saying that I am leaving. I felt the pain. My sister in law, the one I know my SAH had an affair with was there too. I avoided her for years. Now and by this time, he had received the divorce summons. I was visiting the courts quite often for a Protection Order. He had moved out of the house. Here I found myself alone this particular afternoon. I said to myself, my boys have been speaking with a therapist, I was worried that he may have touched them inappropriately and arranged this appointment for them. But I need support now. Who do I turn to? I turned on my computer and started typing in the search column, “Support for spouses of sex addicts”. I reached this site. I contacted JoAnn and that was the beginning of a whole lot of sense of what I was trying to make sense of. I made new friends. I felt heard and understood. I read other peoples stories and connected immediately. I drew so much strength that when I did not visit the site, I felt like an addict who needed a fix. This has become my life line, my support structure, my safe haven. Thank you to everyone for sharing so unselfishly. Thank you for being brave enough to weather the storm with a SAH. I love you all.
It’s a miracle what JoAnn has created. I am a year and a half old I think…. Around Marxh of 2012.
I may not be perfect but I am as good as I am because of this site and the understanding of all the sisters…at least I knew I wasn’t the crazy one 🙂
Less than a month but so glad I found this site. I wish last time I would have found it (2 years ago) I prob wouldn’t have given him the second chance. Didn’t work out so well for me as he just got better at hiding it.
This is very helpful support in an area with little good assist.
I think I am a few months, it’s all just a blur. I do remember my first post, not the content as much as all your responses. I cried like I was a few months old. I had never felt so understood and in the same instant horrified that there are so many women going through the same thing. I remember saying to my therapist I feel like I am so alone, that what my husband did is so crazy there is no advice or person that could ever understand. My local book store nor my therapist’s shelf had any books or resource to help me. Not having ever belonged to a support group I didn’t know what to expect but I am sure this is unique in it’s self. It was such a needed for me to tell my horribale story and I got so much more out of it than I ever expected. I’m not sure where I would be right now without having found the sisterhood. It’s bitter sweet though I was hoping to find one story of success. I guess what we want and what we need can get clouded and it wouldn’t truly be a support group without the harsh realities. I am a fan of you all!
Thank You!4 months for me. I don’t know what I would have done if I had not found SOS. I got the validation, the support and the kick in the ass I needed at times from all of you. I thank all of you , but especially JoAnn for her hard work and kindness, Her selfless commitment to this site, making it a safe place, full of information and help. This site is a one of a kind. When I had my first Dday 8 years ago, there was nothing but Carnes and Schomberg books. 12 step and “codependent” labels. I love all of you and I will forever be grateful for your help and friendship. 🙂
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MoniqueGail,
It’s been about three years for me I’ve been here through it all and it’s been a Godsend. Thank you JoAnn for creating this site and thank you sisters for being there.
Love, NapI would have to look back to see how long it has been….because it was all so traumatic. I feel the same as everyone – this site has been a lifeline like NONE other.
I had this site for support through my worst nightmare – divorce with an abuser who was not held accountable. God that hurt. Felt like my life was a plane that was slow motion crashing for a few years. When it finally crashed, I wasn’t alone. Wow. A miracle indeed. And, Lynn made a painting of my beloved home for was sold (sacrificial lamb).
Now there are those of us who clearly need this support after the SA SHIT storm. That is another book:)
Love to all the sisters,
Desiree
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