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Harmony–you don’t have to defend yourself to him/them anymore. File for divorce and start focusing on your life without him and his merry-go-round.
harmony
i’m so so so so so proud of you! you go girl and stay true to yourself. in the end, that is what matters most. you have your personal integrity. nothing is worth more than that!
your stbxh said “two separate litters from each of you”.
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Harmony – I’m glad that you shared the letter with us. It is so full of sorrow and pain – and it will likely overwhelm anyone that is only peripherally involved. It will make you look like the scorned, crazy wife. They will figure him out soon enough.
I’m so sorry about what happened with him….promises of changing and then cruising his affair partners neighborhood? Wow…..that must have hurt. And his anger issues – you made the right decision Harmony. We are all here for you.
The truth will come out…
Deb
Liza, this man has a college degree but yet he can not spell
Deb, yes that was so painful worse than when I first discover about his secret life ,,,
woke up with a feeling of fear and doom but I am calming my self down by reminding my self,,that this too shall pass
love you allDivorce is such an ugly process, especially when you are dealing with a spouse with poor boundaries. It hurts when you see friends choosing up sides. It can be a race to get to certain friends first, so they don’t hear crap from the other side. So sorry, Harmony.
My husband’s family has not reached out to me and my girls once during the three times I have tried to divorce my husband. I am not grateful. No one should have to go through what you are going through. The sister is not aware of the harm she is doing. She is simply not present enough in her own self and heart.
I am so sorry for your pain.
Didi
Harmony, the people who “pick sides” in a divorce are the people you do not want around you anyway. Your H fooled you so of course he is going to be able to fool friends for awhile. Just sit back and watch him implode. DO NOT ENGAGE!!
Dear Harmony,
I am so happy for you that you have come to a crossroads and have sided with yourself! Im sorry for the ugliness that you have had to deal with, and I agree with the other sisters that you shouldnt send the email to your friends. Undoubtedly he has put them in a tough situation. I cant believe the court would put much weight on letters like that anyway. Stay above the bullshit games. Your name is “harmony” for a reason. Rest in your own inner strength and truth. In the end, that goodness will prevail, just trust it.
Sending you love and light from the other side, which is a very nice place to be! Cant wait till you get here! xoxothank you sisters for your great support I don’t know what would I have done without you, no I am not going to engage anymore I am done, and if I ever have the urge to write or to share or defend my self, I will do it here,,,
But yes Bonnie I can not wait to be on the other side, I miss you a lot I am happy that you are on your world tour, that must be very exciting.
today at 11 am I filed for divorce, the lawyer office had a jar full of chocolates and I took a Hershey chocolate which I ate right after I signed it tasted better than ever, I think my life is starting finally, I feel like going out and celebrating I am so happy and I am so at peace with my decision
Cheers 🙂
I am leaving work right now and going home to give my kids the biggest hugs ever and I will tell them that they are going to do great, we are going to do just great 🙂love you all
I agree with everyone, including you Harmony1—you are going to do just great. As soon as you take that first step, everything changes. You’ve begun to teach everyone the “new rules” for how to treat you.
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