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Just want to say HI to all of my SOS sisters. I have missed you all soooooooooooooooooooooo much.
My dear Mom passed away, and it has brought me to another level of awareness. It was a very difficult battle for her and of course for all of us that supported her through it.
I got back into MN Wednesday night and I am resting my mind, body and soul from the experience of saying goodbye to my Mom as she dealt with the awful beast called lung cancer. It has been a long several months since her original fall at Christmas to her diagnosis and death.
I am still processing everything, and of course very worried about my dear Dad who is now facing living alone after 56 years of marriage.
My mind races with so many thoughts on just everything, and it will just take time to work them all out.
But now, I am back home, and looking at facing the hell I left here on the back burner.
AARRRRGGGHHHHH!!!!!!!!
I indulged myself in trying to connect with all of your latest posts and feel like I have just walked into my best friends house. Although I hurt from the pain of some of your experiences, I am steeping in so much of all of your wisdom. A familiar calm washes over me as I am reminded that all of you understand the panic and fear that grips our hearts as we deal with our spouse’s SA.
I see new names and faces, and just want to say hello to all of you who have not seen me posting. To all of my old buddies here who have gently guided me and put up with my long post, a warm hug.
I have missed you.
I AM BACK!!!!!!
I MISSED YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH.
I did see that you have logged in recently, and it made me so happy.
Cindy, I am so sorry about your mom. If there is anything we can do to help you heal from that loss, please let us know.
Lots of love, support, courage and light coming your way my dear Sister Cindy. ~ JoAnn
Cindy, I am so sorry about your dear mom. Losing our moms has its own unique pain and shock, even when their passing is expected. It won’t always feel like this, dear Cindy, but it is so so hard right now. I hope it’s ok to suggest a beautiful book that was a lifeline for me after my mom died two years ago. It’s called ‘Feathers Brush My Heart’ by Sinclair Browning, and I carried it around with me like a Bible. It’s a series of accounts by women who lost their mothers, and the beautiful unexplainable signs that they received that gave them so much comfort and conviction that their moms’ spirits were still around. Sending my deepest condolences to you and your dad and family. We are all here for you. xoxo
Cindy, I’m sorry about the loss of your mom. My prayers are with you and your father, who must be missing her terribly.
Welcome back Cindy,
Good to see your post. I’m sorry for your loss. You all had a long battle. You sound good though.
Peace and healing,
Debora
Dear Cincy,
My sincere sympathies on the death of your mother. I understand the questions that linger when there is another parent still living, and the worries are sharper.Thank you so much for missing us, and I’m so glad to see your photo again. Did you notice a lot of us got “new looks”? SL doubled dog dared us. Apparently thats a southern term.
Diane.xo
Oh Cindy, So sorry about your Mom. When my Dad passed away, I worried so much about my Mom. She had a tough time but now she’s and independent little shit! I wish the best for your Dad. Stay in touch so he always knows you’re there for him. So very glad to have you back. Post when you can.
Much love, Claire
Cindy,
Welcome back GF!!! My deepest sympathy on the loss of your Mom. I’m thinking of you and your family.Love, Nap
Dear Cindy,
So sorry about the loss of your Mom. I lost my Mother Nov 8th,2011 and stayed with my Dad until his own death on Feb 23, 2012 so I understand your concerns about your remaining parent. It was shocking (and still is) to have lost both parents so quickly and so close together…neither of them were really expected to die as suddenly as they did?? I was spared having to watch them suffer or in a protracted illness. They both died in their beds at home..they said heart, but I know my Dad just followed my Mom so they could squabble for another 58 years in Heaven. 😉 I am so glad to see you back with us and I hope we can support you in whatever is coming next for you. That book Annie suggested sounds lovely. Karen xx
Cindy- I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I think losing a mom is one of the most difficult losses we will ever have- That bond is so strong. My mom has been gone for years, but I still find myself having her pop into my mind and I still miss her. I think those feelings will always be there, but it does get easier with time.
I am sure your Dad is also having a very difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with both of you.
So glad to have you back.
Love,
SharronOh Cindy, I’m so very sorry to hear the news about your mother. You’ve been in my thoughts and prayers so often the last few months, and will continue to be as you grieve the loss of your dear mother. Please feel free to contact me anytime. Take care, dear Sister Cindy. Love, Liza
Thank you Liza,
You are all so very kind.
I am feeling warm and fuzzy with my SOS sisters. Who knew????
Hi Cindy!
Sooo glad you are back!!! And sincerely sorry for your loss. 🙁
The anniversary of my Mom’s death is April 29th. It will be 10 years this month. Unreal. I, too, read a great book called Good Daughter. I highly recommend it! In it the author says, “the reason it is so hard to say goodbye to your Mom Is because you KNOW you are saying goodbye to the person who loved you the most in the whole, wide world.” Awwww…. So true!!
Understand about your Dad too!! Been there, still doing THAT. Even after 10 years!! But, my dad survived and yours will too! You seem to be in a really good place, despite your struggles and for that, I am very proud of you! Now…. First things first- time to change your profile pic!! As Diane stated, please see my post titled “double dog dare ya”…..Karen, I think of you so very often! I hope you are feeling a bit better each day!!
Annie, thanks for the book suggestion! Even after 10 years, I am going to get that book! It sounds wonderful!!!
Coincidentally, I dreamed about my mom last night which is very rare for me!! It was so nice to see her smiling face, hear her laugh, and give her a big hug!!! It was truly like a gift. <3
Love to all,
SL
Thanks girls for the book suggestions. Silver, my mother passed away on April 29th as well (8 years ago). This is always a tough time of year. I’m lucky that my mom comes to me in my dreams often. Love, Liza
Yeah Cindy’s back!!! I was wondering where you were!
I am so sorry to hear about your mom passing. How fortunate that you got to be a part of the process. There is a lot of understanding and grace, and it really puts things into perspective. Makes so many of these sa problems seem even more like a giant waste of precious time. My thoughts and prayers to you and your family. I lost my mom to lung cancer 32 years ago (I was 16) and she got ill and died within 3 days – we didn’t know it was lung cancer until the autopsy. She was only 52. You are right, it is an ugly beast.
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