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‘Trauma Camp’. Wow. I think we need to make shirts that say, “My husband went to Trauma Camp and all I got was this lousy t-shirt.”
My STBX is even getting “Adventure Therapy”. They have rock wall climbing, canoeing, and horseback riding. Wow. Wish I had 5 weeks of camp. Goodness knows I’ve have had plenty of trauma.
EMDR on the dog? Oh, please.
Oh, second thought- dogs are probably a heck of a lot smarter than some of our SA’s. They learn, they’re faithful, they are attentive…
Trauma Camp. That’s just so ridiculous I can’t help but be laughing.
“My husband went to Trauma Camp, and all I got was the trauma.”
Gosh it sounds like a resort not rehab. Not at all what I would have imagined.
My h is so impressed that she fixed her dogs fears!!!
But seriously, I told him I was going to find someone who knew edmr – something he never heard of before, and the next week he found someone for himself to do edmr! The thing is he has not had any trauma, guilt, or shame. He insists he hasn’t even when therapists look at him and say he had to have felt shame he denies it and shrugs.
So what would edmr do for him?
And what a poser to steal my edmr idea – he just wants her to think she saaaaaaved him. and then he will f her.
ok that last bit makes me sound like I am 14 years old!
Maybe the EMDR poser thing has something to do with the stuff my STBX did. If I ever had a complaint, he would come up with a worse one (usually something he never mentioned before). Or if I was having some kind of problem- same thing. It was like that way he never had to show me any support or sympathy and that way he could keep the spotlight on him and show that I wasn’t anything special. Does that make sense?
Yes Teri, it makes perfect sense because your H is personality disordered, incapable of empathy as only the personality disordered are and wasting a whole lot of the family money being treated for an addiction instead of full blown narcissism. Thats my opinion but you already know that. I think he went there to twart your legal attempts for supervised visitation once you were able to prove that he was certainly NOT in recovery of any kind. I believe this is just another power game to him and I wish I knew how you could beat him at his own game. UGH I hate him. Karen x
I would think ( and probably be wrong) that in the case of an addicted parent that proof of continued sobriety would be court ordered. If he openly admits an addiction, spends 50k for rehab, and wants to use that as cause for visitation then he should have to prove he remains sober.
Bev,
I completely agree. If these men are going to hide behind an addiction label, why is the law so hands off? Every other addiction is fault for divorce in this and most other states. Every other addiction affects custody rulings and alimony. Yet they stay completely silent on sex addiction. Why?
Because it’s not a medically recognized addiction. Yet they get to have their ‘trauma resort getaways’ and slap co-addict on partners, and claim their “relapses” are something an addict just does from time to time. It makes me so angry!
I really agree with Dr. Ley that we have just taken away the right of the public to simply make bad choices and do regretable things on PURPOSE! Grow up and own your vice, for God’s sake.
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