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OMG, reading these text exchanges reminds me so much of my h. Exhausting is the perfect descriptor. I’m so sorry you and your son have to endure this. I am sending you positive thoughts. xoxo, Anne
Dear Dic Evil: The ‘ ” ‘ symbol stand for inches not minutes. I’m surprised you don’t know that since I’m sure you’ve been falsely claiming 10-15 INCHES for years. Now if ‘ ” ‘ stood for seconds instead of minutes, then you’d have a valid argument you stupid, petty, little (and I mean little – Teri tells us everything which is how I know about the seconds) man-child.
Sorry Sisters. I hate him so much I just had to vent that anger out. 🙂
He’s like one of those adults in the old Charlie Brown animations, “blah bla blah blah bla bla”. He is just dripping arrogance and entitlement. I love the statement about “courtesy”. More of that insistence of observance of social nicety and Emily Post etiquette while they break every moral code on the planet for their dicks. The hypocrisy is choking.
Does he even HAVE a job or a life? Where does he get the energy and time to think this stuff up? I would LOVE to have that much energy and time.
I think I would be up to doing something REALLY sarcastic like rating his emails for creativity, style and grammar on a 1-10 scale and putting it on the bottom just to piss him off.
but that’s engaging and that’s what they love, so no
I think Lynn is on point. This is truly what he lives for. What can I do today to needle Teri because she KNOWS the real me.
Teri, try to stop engaging the best you can. If he says ” have Bat text me ( or whatever)” just say ok. …. Or something close to that.
He does not want to go in front of that judge so he is dazzling you with bullshit to tire you out and wear you down. He knows that Bat is never going to like him and he knows that eventually Bat will stop visitation on his own. He wants you to end up in mediation so his activities will not be in the record.
I know that standard visitation would be a nightmare for Bat and devil knows you know that too. He doesn’t give as shit about Bat. He cares about his image.
I’ve limited my text responses to my SA to one or two words
He texts to tell me he’s on his way home. I text back:
10-4, or
OK, or
Alrighty, or
Yup, or if like tonight when he said he was picking up tools, heading home soon at 5pm and then just now at 8:40 he texts that he’s on his way home, I don’t text back at all. Mostly because it pisses me off that for 3 hours and 40 min. he wasn’t working and wasn’t home and I refuse to recognize him in any way shape or form.Keep it short and as detached as possible.
LOL, that’s not funny but it is, Claire
The lastest emails SJ sent, all about how he was supposed to know stuff on the separation agreement is done, and why was my email account doing something strange, and I don’t know what else (finally found out how to filter out his incoming mail on gmail). My only response in 10 days was:
“No idea”
And I really liked it so much I’m just letting it stand. He had a wife to work those things out for him. He can call his whores now, if he can’t get the answer himself. They’re his friends, right? He’s got lots of “options”.
Bwahahahahahaha
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Teri, you get flack from everyone on his crew regardless, they only have one setting. Try sending “No idea” as a response and see how fantastic it feels. Let him stew in his own mish mash of stupidity for a while. If he comes back with a ten page dissertation, just reply: “Thanks”
“Brevity is the soul of wit”, so he’ll NEVER be able to volley it back. His little pea brain will be spinning for days trying to figure out how to misrepresent “thanks”.
Of course you are in a situation that warrants more, but just a day or two off of the carousel of crazy would be worth it. You’d sure shake him up. He’s counting on you to try to make sense of everything. That seems like his biggest weapon. If suddenly it seemed you didn’t even care if it made sense, his darts turn into bubbles you just burst.
And double giggle because the reference (from Hamlet) is that a madman is a madman and only definable as such.
OMG, these guys are nightmares.
Claire, no words. You keep staying detached. With what he is putting you through…
Lynn, same with you.
It is so hard when they are so full of shit to just shut up and walk away and not say anything.
The texts and emails are like Chinese water torture, drip drip dripping you do death.And I have dr.evil sending all this crap to copa and his attorney as well. Just waiting to see what I will do and say. If I don’t say anything, she hears crap. If I do say anything, she uses it against me. It is so hard.
I cry for you, Teri, I really do. Because I know the torture, our two are out to mentally demolish us because we have uncovered their evil cores and left them naked to their own putrid souls. They did not believe ANYONE had that power so now we must die a thousand deaths. And all that drama, there just HAS to be a drama.
It’s hard as hell, but it’s my only feeling of victory sometimes. When he has obviously outdone himself creating the perfect ploy, and it’s like another bucket of salt water over the latest papercuts, if I can look up and say “sure” and walk away and see/hear/imagine the deflation of how he’s congratulated himself and gloated while scheming how I’d suffer.
It’s so worth it.
And it keeps my brain from melting, usually.
How about “Dr Evil, since the pick ups are resuming at my house per the recent agreement, I PROMISE, WITHOUT A DOUBT, to call or text you myself before you head this way if I will be not be here when you arrive. Is 45 mins prior notice an agreeable time frame that we could agree on? The only reason I can imagine that you should arrive here and we are gone would be some unforeseen emergency like a medical emergency, for example. I assure you that I will not dodge or miss visitation which has never been done before with prior pick ups at my home. Our son being on time and ready to leave as you arrive is a life long learning tool as bitch copa pointed out. I do not want you to drive here needlessly when you could be notified ahead of time that there is a delay, as I would expect the same courtesy from you, if I were in your position. Bat will see you on blank. Sincerest Regards, Teri
Exactly, kindly put his words and bitch copa’s back at them.
What are they going to say? Teri was mean? Hardly. Teri, was dodging visits? No way. Teri, was trying to work with DE on calling repeatedly? Absolutely.
But BC (bitch copa) is such a bitch she will spin it…
I just don’t think Teri should roll over on the abuse by both of them. Ok so he’s boinking copa….it won’t last. Hell, he’s already moved on to new ones. Copa is the idiot for thinking SHE’S THE ONE….
Yeah, good luck with that one bitch copa!!!!
Brief responses and refusing to engage is not rolling over and taking abuse. I used to think that too, and that was a primo tool in SJs belt. Who takes abuse in silence, and isn’t that the definition of a masochist and co-dependent? Not me.
When I realized that my speaking up for myself about how I felt about what he was doing was just music to his ears, I pulled the plug. He was NEVER confused about it and didn’t need my input at all. But it was nice to know he mattered so much. I was just validating him.
That’s not true for everyone here by a long shot. I do think it’s true (even if subconsciously) for dEvil and SJ, though. They are totally invested in their impact on others, mental, sexual, whatever. They have no core identity and so they are the ultimate chameleons.
And I am sleep deprived and not even vaguely qualified to make those statements. But that’s how I feel about them. Not a credentialed diagnosis, just an observation from the trenches.
Really don’t feel like I can win no matter what I do. The only thing that helps me emotionally, though, if I ONLY think about my mental and emotional well-being, is to just not respond at all. Just walk away and let them play their dumbass games.
I dont’ know if that is the best idea for me legally. I don’t know if that is the best strategy for copa (she can just say that she believed him since I didn’t say anything). I just don’t know about the rest.
But I feel saner when I don’t engage.
What about something to copa ( if false allegations are made ) that simply says, ” that is not true. I can prove it is not true. Copa, call me if you need proof. Thanks, Teri.”
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