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sisters i need some encouragement. not really advice, just tell me i’m doing alright and that everything is going to be ok.
i haven’t been reading or posting lately. just so overwhelmed. each day feels like too much. i had one day off in montreal, and imagine this, my back pain finally started to subside. when the plane started to descend i just cried quietly in my seat, hoping no one could notice. there are just so many difficulties to come back to.
the house renos are difficult. i have some options for being able to pay for it all, but i’m only 80% sure it will work. the new job is really interesting, but the people management part of it and the workload are huge challenges. DW is being his asshole under the surface self. he’s starting to move towards pornographic imagery on the computer again (covenant eyes, i haven’t told him i know). i don’t give a shit what he does except i worry for my son. i have a stalker from the workshops from my job. he was sending me poems and letters about a year ago, i told him i was married and he stopped. he recently sent me an email out of the blue ‘fuck off’ when i didn’t respond to an email he sent about the mailing list. last night at the workshop he came up to me asking if i could teach him private lessons. he denied sending the email when i asked him about it. of course i’m not going to give him lessons.
it’s all too much. the house, the job, the asshole, the stalker, the move, completely redefining myself. worrying about money, about my son. doing it all on my own.
Lisa,
Hang in there and I completely understand your feelings. It is A LOT and anyone would feel the same. Sending you support and strength dear sister!!!
Love, Napxothe artistic director just called me. he’s going to tell the stalker he can’t be part of the workshops anymore. that helps.
Some days are really hard, and they can come in bunches.
Then they end.
We keep going.
And sometimes there are good days, and they can come in bunches too.
Keep going, our artist oracle.
That’s all I got.
I’m sorry Lisa but I can’t tell you that you are doing good. That’s just too wishy washy. You are doing FANTASTIC. You have a lot on your plate, lots of changes have happened and continue to happen. Lots of stress. But you are managing it all. You haven’t quit. You’re putting one foot in front of the other and getting shit done. That is AMAZING considering everything you’ve been through and are still going through. You may not feel like super woman but you are pretty fucking close in my book.
Sending you a big encouraging hug. Now get out there and kick some ass. 🙂
Love you,
DaisyLisa, you are so energetic, you get so much done it’s just astonishing. Anyone would feel overwhelmed with all that going on. You don’t have to ace every challenge, just stand your ground. You have done so much better than that. Coming back is stressful, but you will find your stride again.
Is this a coming home feeling? Home will be different soon.Glad the stalker is out of the picture, that’s a relief for sure.
Lisa, you are doing a fabulous job. Cut yourself some slack. It’s all going to be okay and soon you will be free 🙂
You can do this.
Lisa, so sorry about all the stresses you are going through. They suck so much they really do. Why do they always happen all at the same time?
Would it help you to know I am sort of going through similar things – my ex is always late with his support payments hence my rent is often late and when I complained he slashed my tires, I fractured some ribs in a tub fall, am fighting a two month lung infection and an infected tooth that needed a root canal, got into an accident while under medication and needed more repairs, and also my back is also hurting so bad all summer I must begin physio soon. My son recently started a job which seemed promising and they promptly cut his hours down to very little right when we needed the money most.
It seems like the harder we struggle the more problems get sent our way. This rough patch you are going through will pass though. And you will be the stronger for it. If you haven’t fallen down and been defeated by now you will not be ever. Promise.
Beautiful one, this too will pass.
That’s all I got but I know bev will say a new purse, Diane a new lipstick and somewhere in there a bottle of your favourite something or other.
I say Go to bed and pull the duvet over your head til morning and its a new day and you can start again. Alive.
You are amazing! Think how much you are pulling off in the quagmire – wait til you’re out sister! Nothing will stop you bar your imagination!
And know you have an army behind you!
XxxxThat is a ton of stuff, Lisa. I can understand feeling overwhelmed. Remember to cut yourself some slack and get down/fun time. Prioritize and put a few things off, if you can. I’m sure they will still be there when you are ready.
Hang in there!
A new purse couldn’t hurt 🙂
Saw one Thursday when I was out with my daughter. It would be perfect for you!!
Lisa, you are such an inspiration, I’m constantly amazed. You sure do have a shit storm thrown on you right now, but you’re handling it better than 95% of the population could.
Have a drink, watch bad tv and get to bed early. That’s my prescription!
Self care? Anytime for down time? In the midst of all these things you are doing to get your life on track, can there be something for you that restores you?
Would it be a purse? A drink? Exercise? Girlfriend time?
You are doing amazing things! All your hard work now will pay off in spades.
What else can I add, Lisa?? It IS too much but what can you do? Stay with DW? I don’t think so…… LOL Karen x
Hey Lisa,
I get it. Your overwhelmed. So very understandable given the circumstances. I am so glad to hear crazy stalked can’t come back to the workshops! good news!
One less thing to worry about.I think all of us on here have totally been where you are. I am having a time like this too- being overwhelmed with so many different things.
Your certainly not alone. Try to just take on thing at a time, it’s all we can do. Try to keep being good to yourself and do something special for yourself too 🙂
I wish I has more to offer you, but I will say a little prayer for you tonight. <3
Hey Lisa,
I get it. Your overwhelmed. So very understandable given the circumstances. I am so glad to hear crazy stalked can’t come back to the workshops! good news!
One less thing to worry about.I think all of us on here have totally been where you are. I am having a time like this too- being overwhelmed with so many different things.
Your certainly not alone. Try to just take on thing at a time, it’s all we can do. Try to keep being good to yourself and do something special for yourself too 🙂
I wish I has more to offer you, but I will say a little prayer for you tonight. <3
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