Jeannette’s Horror Story

Dear Jeannette,
I read as much as I could and then I skipped to your comments at the bottom.  I know this has been a horror story for you and I admire your tenacity and justice youre seeking for yourself.  

I want to make sure I understand the situation.  You appealed and they kept the split 50/50 and made some changes with the mobile home.  You claim the split is not 50/50 so they want you to revisit this with the original judge and you want a new judge to hear your case.  Is this correct?  You also want your support alimony revisied and with the new judge you want it to be heard as not no fault because your h duped you being a closet homosexual.  Please correct me where may be wrong?  

What a living nightmare, I’m so sorry for the injustice you have suffered and the subsequent emotional trauma.

I can’t even imagine what your legal fees are.  I didn’t go to trial (almost) and they were high enough.  If you have the means and strength to fight and a lawyer with the same determination, you may set presidence, which would be wonderful for you and other woman.

The city I live is about 100,000.  Per my attorney based on her 25 yrs experience, the judges in my city were very cut and dry.  Going strickly by the law.  Appeals very rare and because the attnys don’t want to mess with the judges.  Fortunately, I thought my judge was fair.  I don’t think I could handle the stress of going to court.  The divorce alone with my really mentally unstable h was stressful enough.

What will you gain by pursuing this?  Is it significant monetary wise ?

Thinking of you, love Nap

Let me clarify, I am very glad to be divorced and as SL says, don’t let this stop you from getting out. Believe me it will only get worse staying with them and it does affect your children. Don’t be fooled.
I like myself and don’t want to be around human trash like him.
When I married him, I had no debt except for my home. In three years I had paid the loan down to 23 years and paid cash to have two rooms turned into an efficiency apartment so I would have addiitonal income. My car was paid for and I had money in the bank. The only thing he brought into the marriage was 2 chest, 1 rocking chair, an electric fry pan and 3 thin cheap towels (we never used those and I have them, he took the best of everything ). I supported 3 children without the bennefit of court ordered child support and was not on welfare. Everything I had, i earned or gave up something to have it.
In addition to the emotional horror and trauma (PSTD) he has put me through with the homosexuality (it absolutely is so offensive to me) he has taken all my things that I worked so hard for. Even the only pictures of my deseased father (40 yrs ago).

I didn’t even get 50%, the values even though we stated they were not accurate (i had printouts) were ignored. Out of 15 pages of 30 lines per page from the moving company I only got 40 boxes (at least 10 had been opened and items removed). The judge ignored an exhibit we submitted that listed the expernsive items and how they would be split and gave it all to him.

What I need from you sisters is to tell me what your impressions of these proceedings are. I have a hard time putting the appropriate words to what I feel this judge did and didn’t do. To me, i felt he was extremely bias, I could hardly finish a sentance before my X’s attorney would interrupt and oppose it. Over 60 objections, my attorney 4.

This judge refused to hear the “Duping Statute” which would have allowed him to give me a greater share. Then after hearing the conflicting testimony, did she know, did you tell her, no, no. My attorney tried to get this judge to reconsider it, it was very evident that the X’s testimony was lies and deceit.

I want to file a judicial complaint but with all the trauma it is hard to step back and put the offenses into a coherant format.

Found out that my X’s attorney is a Judge Pro Tem for this court system – is this ethical?

I know it is a long document and even when I tried to put like information together, it is still confusing.

I did not get any of his retirement, he got it all, over $180,000. He cost me 12 more years of retirement, 401k (matching) and the benefits i would have had with 25 years at that company.

I will be lucky if I get $150,000 out of this home.

I feel like I am going crazy. Will be 60 this year and hopefully finish school next year with thousands $$$ of school loans. How am I supposed to make up for what I have lost from this fraud. His incomed doubled ($85,000 a year) because I moved to follow his career. He negotiates more weeks off and other benefits when he goes to new companies. When I goto work I may only start with 1 week a year.

The courts are crazy. No-fault is criminal.